<p>Bachelors***</p>
<p>It may not be most people, but a lot of people do get married right out of college. For example, 2 of my 3 roommates got engaged over the course of the year and I’m in a relationship that’s heading in that direction. My parents also got married right after college. I have a lot of friends my age (21) or slightly older who are already married as well.</p>
<p>I might be willing to get married right out of college if I found the right guy and if he was willing to move around with me as I worked to get my PhD. My ex-boyfriend wanted to get married right away after I graduated (he’d graduate in 2012 and I in 2014), but that relationship obviously didn’t work out.</p>
<p>I do want to have children, so I’d like to be married by the time I’m 28 or so, and preferably earlier. I don’t really have any goals in my life I wish to achieve that require me to be single.</p>
<p>Honestly i wanna get married at 24 i want kids at 21, i want my kids to see me while im young and i wanna see them graduate and still be in my 30s. Why ya’ll wanna get married at 30? your wife is going to be all wrinkled up at fat & cellulite all over her legs. Or i want to be like P Diddy & impregnant 6 different women and still be single that would be cool i like kids, No pedo</p>
<p>In an ideal world, I’d look to get married between 25-29. I want to be relatively young when my kids grow up. I often notice that people who are more successful career-wise marry later.</p>
<p>I’m a guy and I dont want to even think of marriage until after 30. My dad & mom did. </p>
<p>But my best friend, who is a girl, and female cousin said they wants to get married early bc they don’t want to be old parents.</p>
<p>Ideally, I’d like to get married around age 28, after I’ve finished my Master’s or PhD (not entirely sure what I want to do yet, but I know I’ll be in grad school for sure). I feel like marriage requires a kind of stability that I don’t know if I’ll have in grad school, especially if we’re apart due to different schools/jobs, etc. I’d like to be in a stable financial situation as well. I would also like to have kids in my early thirties, as it’s healthier and less-risk, but I want to be able to enjoy my life before then. </p>
<p>I guess, in the end, whatever happens will happen. I’m not going to try to control anything.</p>
<p>Getting married during grad school can be a problem if you need financial aid. I know a number of students who have to do the calculations both ways because it can make a big difference, especially if the spouse is working. </p>
<p>A lot of this is not something that can be totally planned. If one of my kids is so in love and committed to someone during the college years, and wants to get married young, though I would have misgivings for all of the reasons against young marriage, I wouldn’t stand in the way though I would give the info to them. </p>
<p>Statistically, the younger couples do not do as well in terms of longevity of the marriage. That I know. But where the stats start diverging, I don’t know. Clearly a couple of teenagers getting married are not going to have a great chance of making a go of it and the stats show that clearly. But where they stand for a pair of 21 year olds vs 24 year olds or 28 or 30+, I don’t know. </p>
<p>My childhood friend married at age 19 and had a child at age 20. Divorced, and remarried some years later. Now divorced again, and she moved away from her adult kids and old community and is enjoying her life as a single woman, something she feels she never had a chance to experience. She was an at home high school kid, then had a steady boyfriend and was preparing for marriage and then a baby and mother/wifehood for the next 30 years.</p>