<p>You have made assumptions about biglawhopeful’s marriage, not knowing her at all whatsoever, and I don’t think that is appropriate. You can argue that some stupid 18 year olds may jump into marriage thinking it’s great without really being ready, but you cannot say that biglawhopeful sounds dumb because for all you know she just grew up a lot faster than you did-- it is entirely possible.</p>
<p>The funny thing is, everyone thinks that it is taboo nowadays to get married so young. Most of our grandparents were married when they were teens and had perfectly lovely, long marriages. Only now is it because “people are in love with the idea of marriage” rather than the person him/herself.</p>
<p>Sure it’s possible that she is the almighty wise mother nature, but maybe less than 10%. I tend to think not though judging from her post, and that’s my opinion.</p>
<p>Either way, she has no idea of whether her marriage will succeed or fail (how long has it been, 6 months) so I don’t think it is appropriate for her to come and say how awesome and super fantastic it is.</p>
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<p>I don’t know if you’re indirectly replying to me, but if you are, ideals are very different nowadays (and so are divorce rates) so I’m not sure you can exactly compare (reasons for getting married) like that…</p>
<p>Personally I think people stuck it out if they married back then simply because they’ve been through so much together…and they had to, due to standards and such. Today people want to make sure that they picked the right person but end up switching their minds or something.</p>
<p>Prothero, I was not referring to anyone in particular. Today people just want a quick fix rather than real work, which is why most marriages don’t work.</p>
<p>^ People spend more time dating these days than ever before, so I’m not sure what you mean by that.</p>
<p>Like Prothero said, it’s impossible to really compare this era to say 100 years ago because things have changed so much. Yes, divorce rates have risen, but that doesn’t tell the whole story.</p>
<p>I have been married 8 years, we got married when I was 21. We both walked into the marriage knowing that divorce was not an option for us. We did not have a big wedding and all that jazz, we had a small ceremony in my dad’s backyard with a justice of peace.</p>
<p>IMO, the reason that the divorce rates have risen has very little do with the fact that people get married young, because that has always been around. IMO, the reason(s) the rates have risen is because people want things to always be easy and they don’t want to have to work at a marriage. When they hit a rough patch they would rather run to the court for a divorce then to work things out. Barring any abuse in the marriage there is no reason people can not work through the issues that might come up during marriage.</p>
<p>As for the people change so why get married young. Well that is true no matter if you get married at 20 or 30 or even 40. People change in some way, shape or form all through life. Spouses should be there anyways barring a change that results in abuse or adultery.</p>
<p>But that is how I see things. A country full of spoiled people, that if they can’t have it their way when they want it they throw temper tantrums.</p>
<p>It is also entirely possible that divorce is much more socially acceptable now, so miserable people who would have stayed in their marriages in another time are not now.</p>
<p>They are miserable because they walk into marriage thinking it is going to be rainbows and sunshine all the time. And when it is that all the time they would rather walk or cheat then to work on the issue at hand.</p>
<p>I am not arguing that there aren’t people like that, there are most likely quite a lot, but I do not think that is the only reason the divorce rate has risen. There have been more changes in culture than that. Note that divorce rates are still lower in certain cultural groups where divorce is seriously frowned upon or not allowed altogether.</p>
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<p>I guess whenever I see someone who is getting married so young all I can think is “How long will that last”. I mean the only reason to get married like that is for security or physical reasons or wanting the best wedding ever.</p>
<p>Maybe that is just from my point of view and only pertains to me but I plan on getting married either late 20s to mid 30s once I am seeking companionship or not at all.</p>
<p>One reason we want to get married in our early 20’s is because I want a few years of marriage to ourselves before we introduce children to the relationship, we want a few children, and I do not want to still be having children when I am in my 30’s. If I wait until I am 25-30, I take my year or two and end up not even trying to conceive until I am 27. And if I want to stay at home with them until they are school age, I end up not coming back to my career until my mid 30’s or later depending on how long I’ve pushed things back. That is just not what I have in mind.</p>
<p>I am planning on getting married in my early 20s for the same reason Twisted is. My fiance and I have been together for quite some time and we both want kids, I want a career. Most career women I know waited until their 30s for kids, and I don’t want that. I want to have kids when I am younger so that I am not 50 when they graduate high school. I also know that there are many financial and legal benefits to marriage, plus odds are rather high that I and my finace will both be parent-less when I graduate from college and it just makes sense to be married to be quiet honest.</p>
<p>hmm maybe it is a decision between kids and spouse then?</p>