No, they are saying the divorce is more than just bad luck for you and college. It is much worse for your family,
This may be why they were so concerned recently about college cost.
IIRC…this student says he has been accepted to UVA as an Echols Scholar. I’m assuming this is his instate flagship…since he also said he didn’t want to apply to William and Mary because he lives too close to Williamsburg.
@thumper1 Yes. I want to get away from here and my narcissistic, controlling father ASAP. Frankly, the area is a craphole too
@HRSMom Very true
Well, look at it this way: now you’ll be free from your abusive father AND he won’t get to impose anything on you regarding college .where are you with the UAH application?
There is no required military service for US citizens. There is a requirement that male US citizens register with selective service when they turn 18. I thought that was changing for females too, but not sure.
The US will not revoke citizenship because of citizenship with another country. It’s up to the other country to do it. China revoked my daughter’s citizenship.
His required military service is in Korea to maintain his Korean citizenship.
I believe dual citizenship is possible.
Dude, just yesterday you were having to deal with the whole Vandy thing, now this…you are having an awful week. Yesterday, you must have forgotten about the job tutoring kids, huh? I can see why though there is a lot on your plate, hopefully you are seeking some help from the therapist. But it is good you might be able to get out from under your Dad’s thumb. The gap year shouldn’t be a problem looks like UVA might a pretty generous GAP year policy…
https://admission.virginia.edu/admitted-student
I think Vandy has a similar attitude about GAP year. Here is a list of schools that also have generous GAP year policies…
https://www.gapyearassociation.org/fav-colleges.php
Something you CAN do during your gap year is hold a job. That should allow you to take driving lessons and learn to drive and in the meanwhile give you enough to buy a bike if you don’t have one.
Also, the divorce means you will move from that exurb you live in.
Frankly considering your situation it’s rather good news.
The only consideration is college costs but since your father had weird ideas about college anyway, the gap year will allow you to craft a list with lots of merit schools.
@labegg More like trying to get a job tutoring… school related and I signed up. I should get it probs due to my good grades. I decided I needed financial independence and decided to muster my confidence to do it.
Besides that, I already have the game company job, so I’m trying to save up
@thumper1 - It is my general understanding that there can be issues in some cases if US citizens serve in the military service of other countries. I could well be wrong. I would encourage anyone with dual status to verify that serving won’t cause problems in the future.
Or do a University of London distance degree (some are led by the LSE and held to LSE standards). Quite cheap (less than $10K for the entire degree) because all they do is send some reading material, suggest textbooks, and administer tests. You can take that anywhere in the world. Do well, get in to an LSE masters program (use the money saved for college for that). Get a job.
Or full-ride somewhere, do well, use the money saved for college for an elite masters, get a job.
@MYOS1634 the caveat ism mom will probably move to Korea
Well my Vandy AO switched me to RD, but I don’t think I even have a chance now with this crapshow.
I’m just considering not going to college at all at this point. My dad just told me that, “Evil people like you only bring unhappiness to the world if you are empowered by an education. Best to stay stupid”
You could always attend school in Korea.
@labegg My mum is suggesting that, but that’ll be horrible for me at this point. Considering I was never educated in Korea and the professors are very corrupt there, it’d be very bad. Also, all schools there are essentially huge state schools (I believe Seoul National is larger than UVA)
SNU, the best uni in Korea, has 16,511 undergrads. More that UVA’s 15,891. This is one of the reasons my parents are insensitive to the class size argument. I considered Korean schools in the past but instantly decided against when I learned about the class sizes there.
Have you thought about parlaying that whole soccer ref thing into a GAP year experience?
The US won’t revoke US citizenship for someone who serves in a foreign army unless
A. it’s for a country engaged in hostilities with the US or
B. the person serves as an officer in the foreign army.
@labegg I don’t referee soccer now. I only do data analytics for a game company (which is where I get my 3000 stipend). I’ve already exhausted a lot of activities I could have done gap year (work on an app, data analytics). Actually, my ECs were one of the reasons my parents were crazy on me applying to Stanford and such (“You could get into schools much better than crappy Vandy!”). They don’t regret making me go through the pain of applying to 16 colleges (10 I wanted, 6 they made me or else I couldn’t apply to the 10)… as they don’t know anything about college process or essays. They refused to get me a private counselor (like a lot of my friends, claiming I was an “indigo child with extraordinary abilities…” and then they call me stupid after reading my essay draft!!!) which is why I spent a significant number of hours during the summer on reddit and here looking for facts and such. My parents hate to admit it and lash out if I accuse of them, but they’re only making me do this so they can brag. They never acknowledge they’re wrong. A lot of Korean-born males are narcissistic and controlling. It’s just part of the culture, so I thought it was nothing special, but after talking to people and seeing the wider world, I am angry at my parents and my background.