<p>@firewalker</p>
<p>yeah me too. LOL privacy... reminds of teenage kids who're still in their rebellious phase.</p>
<p>Meh. If my mom friended me on Facebook, I'd feel the same way. Fortunately for me, she's computer illiterate.</p>
<p>That's just gotta be awkward. </p>
<p>A friend of mine is friends with her mom on Facebook and Myspace...but I'm pretty sure she tells her absolutely everything, anyway, and I know that she has nothing fun to hide in the first place (very devout LDS/Mormon).</p>
<p>i have a facebook account. i have not friended my sons and i don't intend to. i rarely even log in....several of my sons friends thought it was cute that i was on facebook and they friended me, but i never even check their profiles. once in a while i get a message from a former student or from one of my sons' friends say hello, but there really isn't that much going on that i'd be remotely interested in.</p>
<p>Can't you just not add her?</p>
<p>my mom told me today that she was going to want access to my facebook when i go off to college. I was like come on now is that not the entire pt. of college to have some privacy. ugh. over-protective parents. gotta love it. sigh.</p>
<p>Tell her no. I don't care if she yells, just... no.</p>
<p>Either that or say, "well if you want complete access to my facebook no questions asked, I'd like complete access to your checking accounts and credit cards... No questions asked."</p>
<p>I'm curious...do you consider it an invasion of privacy when she washes and folds your underwear for you, too?</p>
<p>My dad's been on my LiveJournal friends list for years. I invited him. I'm clearly in a different place than most of you when it comes to my parents. ;)</p>
<p>And yes, ephrhymeswbeef, that's a totally mature response. I'm sure that would instill even more confidence in your parents that you deserve to be treated like an adult.</p>
<p>Which one is immature? Because the fist one was my real advice, the second, a little more sarcastic. </p>
<p>I was trying to illustrate, though, that if they won't accept you getting into their personal stuff (in this case bank accouts, but it could really be anything) -- which they probably wouldn't -- then they shouldn''t expect you to grant them access to personal sites like facebook.</p>
<p>I found both immature, to be honest. "If she gets mad...well nyah nyah to her! She can pack up her toys and leave!" Rational discourse never hurt anyone...</p>
<p>I have a bank account and a Facebook, and I'm not quite seeing the connection there. The only people who would consider those two things to be of equal import are high school and college students who have some living to do.</p>
<p>Facebook and MySpace accounts are not personal. They're the Internet. If they were intended to be personal, you wouldn't have put them up there. They are there to bank on the natural narcissism that every teenager/young twentysomething has and needs to let out. This is a fundamental misunderstanding that my generation needs to figure out, and quickly.</p>
<p>Which reminds me: <a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/prem/200707/myspace%5B/url%5D">http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/prem/200707/myspace</a></p>
<p>Ignore the panic aspect of it, which I'm sure everyone would anyway, and focus on the explanation of how most young people simply do not understand the concept of "privacy" anymore.</p>
<p>I wasn't suggesting you tell her "nyah nyah," as you so eloquently put it. I'm suggesting you delineate the line between what you share with your parents and what you don't. </p>
<p>This is something you set up for yourself, you shouldn't have to give access (to modify the content, see private messages, etc. etc.) to anyone if you don't want to. Thats like giving your e-mail password to your parents -- how would you like it if your mom decided to e-mail your prof about something from your e-mail account? You'd probably be none too happy, I can imagine.</p>
<p>And also, the sites are designed to be shared with people you approve of... not personal per se, but if you don't want someone viewing your site, they shouldn't really be able to.</p>
<p>Parents should realize that, while they did raise us and we are grateful for that, at some point we need to be, well, our own people. You can't run to mommy when you're an adult in the real world.</p>
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<p>I'm not discounting anything you've said; I'm disagreeing. And we're probably about the same age.</p>
<p>There is a difference between choosing not to give people access and thinking that you have privacy. That is my point.</p>
<p>My bad, I wrote that when I thought you were a controlling parent. Your characterization of my first suggestion led me to believe that you were taking me for someone with the reasoning skills of a 4 year old.</p>
<p>Nope. :) Just someone who's in a different place with all of this. Everyone sees it differently.</p>
<p>Why can't you guys live your lives honestly??</p>
<p>If something is embarrassing, don't do it.</p>
<p>If you do something, don't be embarrassed.</p>
<p>Pretty much how I see it as well. If nothing else, just don't put the embarrassing stuff on the Internet.</p>
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Why can't you guys live your lives honestly??</p>
<p>If something is embarrassing, don't do it.</p>
<p>If you do something, don't be embarrassed.
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<p>totally agree, why would you hide your facebook account from your parents of all people? well unless your parents is a psychopath bastards then I can't really say anything... consider this, some random college friends whom you just met probably less than a month is "eligible" to be your facebook friends but your parents whom you've been living with almost your entire life is not... It's really weird for me.</p>
<p>See, I'm not embarassed about playing beirut or doing kegstands, but I know there are people that would judge me if they saw pictures of me doing that. Future employers, for one. Parents, probably not so much, but still.</p>
<p>Hm...there's nothing on my Facebook account that I'd be embarrassed for my parents to see, but I still wouldn't really want them to be snooping around on there. </p>
<p>Nothing's "bad" or anything of that sort...I think it's more of an issue of trust than anything else. I've pretty much never given them any reason not to trust me, so I guess I'd just be a little offended if they felt the need to "check up" on me through Facebook or something.</p>
<p>I guess I would ask this: If you're afraid of your parent(s) seeing your Facebook or MySpace profiles, what specifically are you afraid will happen? Are they suddenly going to stop helping pay your tuition because you went to a frat party? Are you going to have to sit through some kind of lecture you don't want to hear? Or are you just going to be embarrassed that you're not entirely who they think you are? People don't fear things unless they think there will be a bad conclusion. What is it about their potential reaction that freaks you out?</p>
<p>(Not being challenging, just genuinely curious. Question's open to everyone.)</p>