<p>Like I said, my issue with it would simply be a feeling that they don't trust me enough not to snoop through my stuff. </p>
<p>Which they don't do...they just gripe at me about stuff I haven't even done just because my older brother did...ugh!</p>
<p>Honestly, my parents know I drink... Kind of alot. But if they knew how much, exactly... there could be some upsetting discussions about tuition, seeing as how much my school costs. I don't know. I honstly think this is part of the college experience, so, yeah.</p>
<p>Well, I'm probably as straight-laced as they come (no drugs, alcohol, or sex, etc.) and honestly, I would feel threatened if my parents would get a facebook account in attempt to moniter me online. </p>
<p>I think it's more about trust than anything else, because for my parents to get a facebook basically means they don't trust me to behave honestly while I'm online.</p>
<p>Also, it's kinda like when someone's reading over your shoulder as you're composing a paper for a class-- it's just plain awkward. It's not like I'm writing some trashy romance novel, it's a research paper, but it just doesn't feel right to have someone constantly watching your every move.</p>
<p>I do nothing that I'm embarrassed about, I just want to be able to have my own personal space-- there's nothing embarrassing or dishonest about that.</p>
<p>The police can see it, future employers can see it, you shouldn't have anything on there that you would be ashamed of your mother seeing.</p>
<p>OR, you could just not have facebook.</p>
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<p>Robotab, maybe this mother wants to remind her child (and you) that Facebook is not "your personal space". It's out there for all sorts of people to see. It's not the diary hidden under your mattress; it's a billboard on the highway. </p>
<p>There is no "personal space" or "privacy" on the Internet.</p>
<p>My suggestion is that if your parents want to see your Facebook or MySpace account, show it to them periodically. As others have noted, it isn't "private" in any real sense, and future employers or others evaluating you may see it. Your parents will be able to point out things that you make think are just amusing, but that employers may interpret negatively. (I.e., a goofy photo of you drinking something out of a red plastic cup, or group names with a lot of profanity).</p>
<p>As for drawing the line and protecting your rights, etc., who paid for the computer you are using to set up these accounts? If it wasn't you, then your parents may have some reasonable expectations of involvement.</p>
<p>My parents, uncle, cousins, and godfather are on my myspace. I have nothing to hide :-)</p>
<p>I've told my daughter to think about what she puts on her facebook (no, I haven't seen it and will not) because of the things I've read on here about future employers, etc. but she said it's not a problem because you have to either be in her network (her college?) or be added as a friend. Is this true or is she overestimating her privacy?</p>
<p>I really think its more about independance...no your mother will not be supervising play dates anymore and your world is not theirs. if you have a good relationship with your parents you will let them see your world by talking to them about your life. Facebook is just not parent territory.</p>
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<p>In my view, yes, she's overestimating her privacy and the security of the Net. It's not too tough to break the security of Facebook if someone wants to do so. (No, I don't know how, but so I've been told.)</p>
<p>And the administrators of the Facebook group, such as the college deans, can see the information in their network even if they're not your "friends".</p>
<p>deny the friend request>...</p>
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<p>wrong actually. a secure facebook profile can only be broken in by a skilled hacker or a facebook employee. stalkers, employers, and normal people wont be able to do it</p>
<p>I wonder if other people experience this at their colleges...</p>
<p>A lot of people at my college check their Facebook/MySpace accounts in the library or labs while working on assignments. Then they forget to log out or clear their privacy settings, so their pages are still easily viewable/accessible. It happens all the time. Anyone else see this?</p>
<p>That would bug me a bit. I don't have anything to hide, but my mom would be like "Oh, whose this?"</p>
<p>My dad made a myspace, but that was only to look for the carver. I don't think he knew how to do anything else with it.</p>
<p>I have a Mom friend who only allows her son to have a facebook page as long as she can be his "friend" so she can see his profile. He's under 18, she pays for his food and lodging and soon tuition, and there is enough in the press about what some kids post on facebook that it scared her. Others I know simply asked for the password so they can monitor it occasionally. These kids complied, and the parents are responsible but not overly controlling. </p>
<p>In the case of this poster, I would ask the Mom why she wants to be on facebook-- it might be curiosity, it might be casual monitoring, it might be she thinks it will be "cool". In other words, it might not be being controlling, but it might be a desire to be a "cool parent", even though the desire may seem ill-conceived. </p>
<p>Also remember, students, that even if your parent can't see your facebook, maybe your friends parents' can, and so they can see your profile. Be careful about what you post. </p>
<p>Just a note to students: parents do have the right to have facebook accounts (with or without their offspring as "friends"), and since it is now open to everyone (not just college students), I think you'll see an expansion beyond the under 21 crowd, so get used to it. It can be handy for adult networking, too. And in a college, if you haven't limited your privacy, anybody on the faculty/staff can see your info by being a member of the same network. You can limit this, so do check your privacy settings. </p>
<p>(Though many of us prefer the more profesional "LinkedIn" site).</p>
<p>Response to SportsMama:</p>
<p>It's relatively easy to become a part of a network so your daughter should use caution or limit access to her profile to only friends. "College" networks include alum. What do alumni do after they go to school? They work. For employers. Who ask them to check out students' profiles when they apply for jobs. It's really that simple. And real. (Grad schools do it, too, and increasingly undergrad institutions are doing it if there is some hesitation in the decision). </p>
<p>I have heard from employers first hand that they do this and they do reject applicants because of something they've seen. And colleges and grad schools, too.... So, use caution when posting... it IS the internet, afterall, not a locked diary in your locked drawer in your locked room...</p>
<p>lol are you on facebook haha j/k</p>
<p>My mom and dad are both on facebook so they can see all my pictures. My dad has probably checked his once, but my mom has a few friends and has even uploaded a few of her pictures. It's probably the most computer-savvy she's ever been, so I'm kind of proud of her.</p>
<p>if they are on it then just disconnect from it totally</p>
<p>for anyone to even fathom that facebook is private is naive at best</p>
<p>there is no privacy on the web and to pretend you have it is stupid</p>
<p>you have to act as if your boss, your girlfriends father, your bank loan officer that they all can see your site</p>
<p>its actually kind of funny to get so upset about someone you know seeing your site while perfect strangers can learn all about you</p>
<p>people that you have never met can see your stupid pictures, and your family can't? or they all know your past weekend events, your future partying but those that love you aren't privey? </p>
<p>the weirdness astounds, and it still amazes me that people expect privacy online....there should be, but to get upset that mommy wants to look is funny when you know that big brother, and everyone else can look....I can only laugh sadly</p>