<p>I often hang out with people that have completely different interests than I have. For example the people I hang out with like to talk about stuff like hot Hollywood actors and watch random YouTube videos like the "Epic Rap Battles" series ... pretty much stuff I find below me. </p>
<p>My questions are: will I, as I grow up, find that peoples' tastes mature? </p>
<p>When I'm in college, will there similarly be people who like to talk about how hot this actor is or how hot that actor is? Will there similarly be people who do nothing but watch the most inane YouTube videos? And will there be a person in the world who shares interests with me? I'm definitely out of the mainstream - I don't really appreciate pop music or culture ... but will there be that someone ...? Or is that just an illusion? Tell me if you feel my angst of not being able to find someone to communicate with.</p>
<p>You suffer from ‘I’m better than everyone else’ syndrome… get over it. Iceqube see a therapist or something cause from all the threads you’ve made I can tell you’re having problems.</p>
<p>I’m don’t really think people will really mature much, if by that you mean turn into people you could relate to better. I bet there are probably some people at your school that you could relate to in the way that you want. but maybe they are hard to find. </p>
<p>If you tend to relate to smarter people more, then going to a more selective college might make it easier to find people you relate with. </p>
<p>What do you mean by you find those things below you?</p>
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<p>I wouldn’t diagnose IceQube with that. I think he’s just missing friends that he could relate to more, which for some reason or another he doesn’t have at the moment.</p>
<p>^^^ this
just because they don’t talk about politics or the meaning of life does not mean that they are incapable of communicating at a higher level. Perhaps they talk about such “inane” things because they are sick of all the serious stuff they deal with at school. Ask their opinion on the candidates for the upcoming election or their thoughts about something else. Maybe they will surprise you.</p>
<p>When you’re in your situation, you can’t afford to be choosy. I sometimes feel teenagers are superficial, but I understand how superficial I can be.</p>
<p>I think IceQube was probably making a valid point. It does not mean he is arrogant or thinks he’s better than everyone else. He’s probably trying to say that he wants to hang out with people that have the same interests or concerns as him. And yes as people grow they do mature and their tastes are significantly different because that’s what happens when you grow and mature. Right now many high schoolers act the way they do because they need an escape from the stressful life of highschool. It’s just a phase.</p>
<p>Samonuh, I’m sure Iceqube does not have that. It’s not that she is socially impaired, it is just that she cannot find anyone who really appeals to her.</p>
<p>Here’s my tip. Don’t post these kinda stuff in College Confidential. You’ll get continuously attacked by unsympathetic and arrogant beings here.</p>
<p>IceQube, have you considered joining a club that pertains to your interests? I also have a hard time relating to a lot of the people at my school, but I can somewhat relate to the people in my Gaming Club.</p>
<p>In college, I’m sure there will be people who talk about nothing but the latest celebrity gossip. However, there will also (probably) be people with the same interests as you. At least that’s what I’m hoping for. I currently have no close friends, and therefore have no one to really “communicate” with. I’m hoping the situation will improve when I go to college next year (well, this year now that’s it’s 2012).</p>
<p>I guess I can’t help you here, bro.
I don’t really have a hang out group - my friends are scattered among the jocks, the musicians, and the nerds.
I am, though, fortunate enough to have a couple close friends to whom I can talk about anything - silly as well as serious stuff. With my best friend, for example, it was a matter of chance: she has class with my favorite teacher right after lunch. I started hanging out there and one day she came to talk to me. Now, we even have exchanged Christmas gifts.
P.S.: I met her this 1st semester of senior year.</p>
<p>I wasn’t actually claiming she had Asperger’s. It’s like calling someone ■■■■■■■■. Do you actually think someone is mentally challenged when you call them a ■■■■■■? I was implying that she had no social skills.</p>
<p>I don’t usually call people ■■■■■■■■. Yeah I see what you were getting at, I’m just not of fan of when people do that and don’t even know what Asperger’s or like a mental retardation is when they use it so casually</p>
<p>Just like how I hate when people say things like “that party was so gay”</p>
<p>But that’s beside the point. Sorry IceQube, haha I’m not really helping out, but I don’t really know what to tell you…</p>
<p>I understand your frustration, but I don’t think you should say those things are below you. High schoolers and many other people in the world will talk about celebrities, gossip, random vids, etc., things that are kind of superficial. However, I feel this will only change a little in college, no matter how prestigious the institution is. It’s more how you respond to it. If you get tired of people talking about things like that often, then just listen to some music and take a break from people for a while. It’s okay not to talk to everybody or be involved all the time. I’m sure there are others who have very similar interests as you do, but you need to be willing to strike up whatever you consider a “stimulating” conversation if you tire of the normal high school conversation. What music, ideas, literature, or films do you find interesting? It’s okay to be normal instead of intellectual every now and then.</p>