<p>So hear is the situation, I'm at SB and I found out today that I didn't get into LA, but my boyfriend (Computer science major) did get in, who also goes to SB. We have been dating for 2.5 years, and so obviously we want to go to the same college. However, since he got into LA, he wants me to appeal bc he wants both of us to have more choices and also going to LA would be better since my Rheumatologist is at LA children's hosptial . (btw, we applied to both SD and LA...still both pending for SD). Also, he isn't telling his parents about his acceptance yet, because they will want to know if I got in....and if he tells them I didn't, and he ends up going to SD with me (if we both get in) then they will think I am the one stopping him from going to a great institution, that is 20 mins away without traffic....So what do you guys think...(I know tough situation, huh?)</p>
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<li>Honestly, I feel...like although we both would love it at SD..I would feel like I would have been the one that stopped him from even considering it...and that hurts me soo much...please give me advice..</li>
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<p>Wow, that is a MAJOR decision. To be honest, no one on these boards will really know your situation intimately enough to tell you what you should or shouldn't do. My only advice: follow your heart, but at the same time, be realistic. Best of luck whatever you guys decide.</p>
<p>dont hold him back from his amazing future. but i'd be worried about all those azn gurrs at UCLA. </p>
<p>IMO, it's his decision whether he goes to UCLA or SD with you, but if he does go to the same college as you, and you have a massive guilt trip, it'll probably hurt the relationship. Definitely a hard decision! My only recommendation is not to be greedy.</p>
<p>education first, unless ur getting engaged, i dont know ur personal situation</p>
<p>i know a couple of 5 yrs that went seperate directions for college (san jose <--> san diego : 8 hrs )
they are still together
SD isn't far from LA maybe u guys could work something out?</p>
<p>sistah, do you have good grounds for appeal? I wish you the best and would start researching right away. Your bf sounds very considerate. </p>
<p>What is your situation, stats-wise? What is your bf's major and why would he be better served by going to ucla?</p>
<p>On the positive side, it's not so bad to go to different colleges. If you guys are in it for the long haul it's bound to happen at some point in the future and 20 minutes away is very good.</p>
<p>I agree w/ kmzizzle on this one. He needs to go to the school that will lend him the best career in the future. My husband and I are in a similar situation, he was accepted to UCD and is waiting on Cal, I'm already at Cal, so if he doesn't get in, he will have to commute by train or shuttle, either way it's going to be a 2 hr commute 3 days a week so it will be rough but education is important. Support him either way and things will work out. 20 min is not a bad commute though.</p>
<p>i feel you...my boyfriend just got in LA today...
i'm still pending though...if i don't get in...i don't know
long distance relationship is hard..</p>
<p>He is a Computer science major..
I am a psych major, have a a 3.3 gpa..and actually going to UCLA would be beneficial for me bc I have Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis and my rheumatologist is at LA children's hospital</p>
<p>Actually your healthcare specialist being in LA is not a bad reason for appeal. Appeals do take this kind of thing into consideration, especially if you've been seeing your rheumatologist for a long time. On the other hand, psych is tough to get into at UCLA.</p>
<p>Which school has the most competitive cs department?</p>
<p>I would think UCSD excels more than UCLA in any engineering department but I could be wrong. As for your situation, it's not even that bad. I know so many couples that go to different UCs and it doesn't phase them. My advise to you is this: </p>
<p>Do not talk about the situation with your boyfriend; you're the one in hold-back position. If he wants to initiate the conversation, always let him lead and do not assert your opinions or else if he goes to SD with you (granted you get in, which I highly believe you will cuz I'm a 3.3 Soc major and got in) you'll feel like you made him go there and if he goes to LA, he'll feel bad. So handle the situation with submissive actions on your part.</p>
<p>Okay, thanks SamK2987...that helps a lot! He is the one that really wants me to appeal, not because he really wants LA, but bc he wants us to have more choices..(it's incredible, he got in and he's happy...but he's more concerned about me NOT getting in....and the lack of choices)</p>
<p>I wish you the best of luck on getting in UCLA with your appeal. And if not, going to UCSD isn't a bad choice either. I think your boyfriend should also look into the programs, check out the schools, but I wouldn't solely base your guys' decision on going to the same school. I'm guessing you guys have a strong relationship, and going to different schools for 2 (?) years isn't going to do THAT much damage if you guys can be true to each other. Plus, at least you'll both be in socal so you guys can visit each other often! :)</p>
<p>Honestly, when I think of CS I think UCB and UCSD. UCSD is on the list of "public Ivies" and it has a great CS program as well...better than LA I think. UCSD is not a step down.</p>