<p>When I consider my own Ds, in many ways, they are both like the OP's D - similar test scores, full social life, one had several singular achievements in high school that tended to make her stand out from the crowd (also more opportunities due to our improving financial situation by the time her turn came), both were extremely well-liked by peers and teachers but probably not the first to come to teachers' minds when they thought of "intellectual" students. The thing is, they are average bright kids, not average dumb kids. Older D attended a good state school because that's what we could afford at the time, while younger D is in a good LAC. </p>
<p>Older D did fine at the state U. I wouldn't say it was a life-changing experience for her intellectually, but she and her husband now run a successful business, are raising three beautiful children, and are involved in politics and community service in their town, and I could not ask for more. Younger D is truly thriving at her LAC. It is a sacrifice to pay for it, but it is one I'm willing to make. </p>
<p>I think both of my girls, while having some good leadership qualities, are more the type that rise to the level of those around them rather than being the standard setters. They don't seem to have quite the same level of intense competitive drive that I have (not to be better than anyone else, but to always outdo myself) BUT I think they are healthy and balanced while I have to admit that at times I pointless push myself more than necessary. OP, I think your child might be somewhat like mine....the fact that she is successfully taking three AP classes, assuming the courses are taught with appropriate rigor, indicates that she truly has what it takes to be successful in college, and I think you can look forward to her maturing and developing in the right setting.</p>
<p>When I first started reading CC, I thought my D was a genius and I had visions of the Ivies, Swarthmore, Middlebury, etc. As I kept reading, I figured out that D, while indeed one of the better students in her small high school, was better suited to the kinds of schools she'd always had in mind anyway, and she ended up with a very good fit.</p>
<p>I really think blossom's advice, including that passed on by BigAppleDaddy, is very insightful. My advice is to relax and enjoy your child. As for applications, do the clerical legwork and keep track of deadlines if you feel you must (I did), and then wait for the results (it's so easy to say that, now that it's not me). If the list is appropriate, I think you'll be pleased with the possibilities. </p>
<p>Are you and your child still making the list? Maybe we can help with that if you give us some parameters.</p>