For some background information, I’m a college freshman, and due to the overcrowding at my university, my roommate is a sophomore. Together we share a single room along with a suite-style bathroom with two other girls. Though we get along fine, we hardly speak at all asides from saying hello and goodbye. Since it’s her second year, she already had an established group of friends, preventing the usual freshman roommate codependency. She also works a lot, so during the day she’s gone from the apartment while I’m there, and I’m gone at night when she is there. Though I had suspicions of my roommate smoking weed, she was very discrete asides from a subtle lingering smell covered by perfume. Again, I didn’t know for sure and I’m not a snitch, especially without concrete evidence.
A few days after I left home for winter break, I received a call from my RD telling me that a drug search was approved for our room, and during the search, they found “marijuana paraphernalia” that violated the school’s policies and she wanted to know whether I would fess up before I was formally charged. Of course, as someone who doesn’t drink or smoke, I let them know that I had prescribed medication on my desk, but asides from that, nothing else. I asked where in the room it was found, and conveniently, it was on my roommate’s side of the room. Despite this, my RD said that since it was still in our shared space, I would be held responsible. Usually violations like this are dealt directly by the RD and campus security, but my RD said that she would allow me to plead my case directly with the head of Student Affairs. After informing my parents about the situation, they made me take a drug test, which, (surprise surprise) came back clean.
Upon my arrival, I received a very intimidating letter from the head of Student Affairs stating that I was possibly being charged with possession of illegal drugs AND alcohol (something my RD did NOT tell me about) and unless I set up a meeting with her within two business days of receiving the letter, they would assume I am guilty and discipline me as such. The letter went on to say that though I have the opportunity to plead my case, the decision will ultimately be made by the student affairs officers without my presence, and that if I am considered guilty, I will be suspended as well as possibly losing all my financial aid, merit aid, and tuition. I am almost on a full ride to this school… if I lose my aid I will 100% be forced to drop out as my family is not supporting me. I emailed the head of Student Affairs to make an appointment as soon as I received the letter, and her response was extremely curt and a tinge accusatory- as if she’s already made her mind up on the case. Of course, I could just be overthinking as I have extreme anxiety over this whole situation. On top of this, they put a discipline hold on my account to prevent me from registering for classes until they decide my fate, which can take weeks. By then, registration will be over and any classes I need to change will be full and/or finalized.
My appointment is tomorrow at 2 pm, and I honestly have no idea what to say. My future is literally resting on this and I haven’t even done anything. I’m considering telling them that even if I wanted to, I couldn’t drink or smoke due to my genetic disorder, which is true, but I don’t know if that will be sufficient. I have nothing on my record and am one of the few students in their honors college. Do I tell them I had my suspicions, or do I play completely dumb? Can I get in trouble for having a feeling and not reporting it? I’m so clueless. Please help. All advice is greatly appreciated!!