<p>MfP --
Try no to be so hard on yourself. You clearly sacrificed a lot to go to law school, and were hoping for a better financial return. It may still come....but maybe not right now when you need it.</p>
<p>It's possible things will improve in the market, and your finances may be looking brighter in the spring....but you can't count on it. You indicated retirement funds had been a consideration for financing school. Unless there had been a huge amount of money in that fund - beyond what you and H would have needed for a long, comfortable retiremment - it should not have been considered as available for college funding. You'll find all kinds of threads on this site, and an assortment of articles by professional financial advisors confirming this advice. </p>
<p>I hope that, in the long run, you will find that advancing your own education was worthwhile. It may not have given you the immediate boost you were expecting but...if you're going to have to work into your later years...you may still be glad you did it.</p>
<p>Don't let your daughter make you feel so guilty. She's going to say what she needs to say. It should sink in, eventually, that there are other kids in the house who will need to be educated, and you're doing the best you can under current circumstances. Many of us were not able to put aside the kind of funds we would have liked for our kids education. For most middle class families, saving enough money as our kids were growing up to come up with $160,000 - $200,000 (x 2 or 3 kids.) to fund a college education was just not within the realm of possibility.</p>