<p>Agreed with sunshadow. Amend as follows:</p>
<p>THINGS TO DO:
1) Get a counselor
2) Make sure you are far from the influence of your dad's toxic girlfriend, and if that means also cutting out your dad, so be it.
3) Always maintain your dignity.</p>
<p>Upon reflection, maybe these people are right in the short-term.</p>
<p>But if this continues for too long, then it's time to bring out the ass-kicking. Seriously.</p>
<p>to the OP:
I've never actually been in that situation but here's what I think you should do:
TALK to your dad. Tell him how you feel and let him know that you didn't like what he did. Don't rant about how his girlfriend is a mean ***** - he'll start defending her and telling you to respect her.
Communication is the key to a successfull relationship so try doing that with your dad. Fix what's broken before it's beyond fixing.
If you feel that communicating with him is not an option, you can go confrunt his girlfriend and ask her why she's being suck a *****. She's probably do what she did on the phone so be prepared for a confruntation...and do NOT lose your temper. Be above what she does and talk to her like a civilized person.
I personally think that you should do both. It'll amend your relationship with your dad and it'll show you what your dad's gf's real intent is.</p>
<p>Good Luck!</p>
<p>JEALOUS JEALOUS JEALOUS . just laugh at her face. = dad's gf</p>
<p>"He's taking his g/f of 8 months over his daughter of 17 years."</p>
<p>It's called manopause. He can have sex with his g/f of course he's going to initially choose her, she's still new and he's insecure.</p>
<p>I am sorry this is happening to you. You must try and stay above the drama. The g/f wants drama with you because she wants him to burn bridges with his past. She has more than enough children for him to take care of. She is simply trying to eliminate the competition. It's not really even personal, it's tactical. It's planned to disrupt your relationship with your dad. </p>
<p>You can decide to either play or not. Your dad is thinking with his crotch right now and it will be awhile before he snaps out of it. Men are really easily lead. If you choose to play, know that you are lowering yourself into a battle you won't win for a long time, if ever. </p>
<p>Just don't play. I wouldn't say anything, it's not going to help for awhile. Trying to deal with him and this situation right now is just throwing gas on the fire. Just drop him a line, with a short department store quip like "how are you doing?" and let it sit. Don't dump or pour emotions right now. They would be wasted tears. </p>
<p>I have yet to meet anyone who parents go through the HS divorce that doesn't come out a bit beaten up. The hope is you'll see the situation for what it is and not participate in the theatre it becomes. luck kid.</p>
<p>When I read that I wanted to come over and slap the girlfriend, and if that was my dad's girlfriend I don't know what I would do</p>
<p>Here is an update, my dad had attempted to grab the phone but his girlfriend would not allow him to speak to me. She is bipolar and very messed up. (which led me to wonder, why is he dating her?) Anyway, my dad is not trailer trash, he is very intellectual and not trashy, I said she was not him. He did not hear everything she said to me. We spoke and he agreed to break things off with her. I can't shut my dad out of my life because I really care about him. His girlfriend is not mentally well and he said that this was the first time he has seen this side of her but he will end the relationship because of what she said to me. Unfortunately for my dad, despite having a fairly decent job, makes about $100,000-120,000. So money is some what tight for him, because he can't touch the $800,000 until he is 59 1/2 he is 50 right now. Both my parents have not really been telling the truth, but my dad and I had a serious conversation and he agreed to break up with her. My life sucks right now, and I don't want therapy because its not going to help. I hope it will pass soon.</p>
<p>Here is an update, my dad had attempted to grab the phone but his girlfriend would not allow him to speak to me. She is bipolar and very messed up. (which led me to wonder, why is he dating her?) Anyway, my dad is not trailer trash, he is very intellectual and not trashy, I said she was not him. He did not hear everything she said to me. We spoke and he agreed to break things off with her. I can't shut my dad out of my life because I really care about him. His girlfriend is not mentally well and he said that this was the first time he has seen this side of her but he will end the relationship because of what she said to me. Unfortunately for my dad, despite having a fairly decent job, makes about $100,000-120,000. So money is some what tight for him, because he can't touch the $800,000 until he is 59 1/2 he is 50 right now. Both my parents have not really been telling the truth, but my dad and I had a serious conversation and he agreed to break up with her. My life sucks right now, and I don't want therapy because its not going to help. I hope it will pass soon.</p>
<p>I'm glad you're able to express your frustration here; much better than keeping it inside. Don't dwell too much on how bad you got it, keep you're head up, things will get better for you.</p>
<p>It will pass as long as he breaks up with her and LEARNS from the experience to pick someone not messed up. You should always talk to him about what's bothering you. Never keep it bottled up.</p>
<p>think what your dad did when he met boyfriends of yours he didnt like. if he was accepting of them, be accepting of her- if he wasnt, you dont have to be either (and tell him as much).</p>
<p>i'm sorry that this is happening to you but don't let these things bring u down and don't stoop down to ur dad's gf's level cuz i think that will only agitate ur anger further. Like stuck on 1700, u should express how ur feeling to ur dad and possibly his gf (if she has the maturity to listen to what u have to say). I hope that everything goes well in ur future and chin up, u'll get through it</p>
<p>Man, this is good news that your dad sees this woman is ALL WRONG. I whoever it was who said that this woman is trying to get someone like your dad to take care ofher and ALL HER CHILDREN is making a plan. YOur Dad seriously needs help though. What's up with our parent's babyboom generation. They are like the worst when it comes to committment, faithfulness, grit. They have NO staying power and they have no ability to do anything for anyone else but themselves. My parents are old school eventhough they are technically babyboomers. They have their issues but when they fight or are personally unhappy, they realize they have a love that is being tested and so far (knock on wood) they suck it up. I have to say, that when they go on andon about how my brother and I have to study, be self-disciplined and not always given in to our feelings, I know they have done it and it can be done. I really feel for you though. Do your homework, do your routines and can you call some of your dad's friends and like have them speak to him at least may be someone stronger than he is right now who can help him out of this mess. But, seriously, you have to stay away from this woman - she sounds mental. Love your dad but draw A LINE.</p>