Hi guys. I’ve seen my friend who is a freshman posting a lot on her blog about the rough times she’s going through in college. She’s not very happy there at all and I want to make her feel better, but I’m not sure how to. I was planning on visiting but I actually have no idea when that would happen so I’m trying to think of other ideas.
She really hates her roommates and is having trouble w mental health issues preventing her from doing her work. I try to talk to her about some things but I really don’t know how much of an impact it has.
Is there anything I can do, as a person on the other side of a screen, to make this situation better? Thanks.
Call her, text her directly, make the contact more personal than reading her blog, listen, show you care. Suggest campus counseling services and talking to her parents. If you think she is at risk of hurting herself, alert her parents. Be as specific as you can about the behaviors that concern you. You are a good friend to be so concerned.
honestly, you can’t do much. assuming you’re out of reach from her and stuff. that’s like trying to help the living when you’re dead.
however. if i were in her shoes, and i was posting “stories” like this online. i obviously want to share these rough times with someone and have some sort of feedback.
which is where you come along
be someone who she can confide with and share her feelings. and honestly listen to her and give her geniune feedback. that’s honestly, what i believe, to be the least you can do.