Basically my girlfriend and I are applying to the same dream college. We have talked about and arn’t being competitive with each other or anything like that. I still a little worried though now that we are waiting for the results. I feel like if I don’t get in and she does I will be really disappointed but I think I will be able to get through it and it won’t effect my relationship with her. I’m worried though that if I get in and she doesn’t it was be awkward and I won’t know what to say or how to react in a kind way. Do you have any advice? I think I am competitive for the school because I’m above average in SATs and have solid grades and interesting extracurriculars though it’s a really competitive college so no one had a good chance. I don’t know if she has a chance or not because we’ve agreed not to discuss grades or SATs.
Really all that you can do is to make sure that you both apply to safeties (not necessarily that same ones) and take your budget and the likely cost of each school into consideration. Then relax and try not to worry about it.
There are a lot of students right now who do not know where they will be in September. Students who are in relationships have the additional stress that they do not know where their significant other will end up. Some relationships break up because the two people go different ways. Generally I would recommend that you do not attend a university because your girlfriend (or boyfriend) is going there – go to the school that is right for you. If you both end up at the same school that is fine, but even in that case most high school relationships do not survive the freshmen year of university.