<p>Hypothetically speaking, if you got into a really good school and your significant other got into one not as highly rated, and you also got accepted to that school, what would you do? Just curious</p>
<p>I would go to the school I preferred regardless of where my (nonexistent) boyfriend was going, but my choice wouldn’t necessarily be based on which school was the highest rated.</p>
<p>Cranky dad answer:</p>
<p>I know this is going to sound harsh, but experience says basing your school choice on where others go rarely works out. It’s amazing how fast high school friends/boyfriends/girlfriends fade into the rearview mirror the minute you get to college, even if you’re on the same campus. You get one chance to get accepted into a college (transferring is tough, especially among elite schools), so don’t make a choice you’re going to regret. </p>
<p>Basic question: Which school would you go to if you were the only person going to any of them? That’s the school you go to. Everything else will work itself out.</p>
<p>There was a girl from my D’s school gave up Stanford and went to Washington U with her boy friend. I guess it really depends on what is the second option.</p>
<p>Do a search on the term “turkey drop” here on CC</p>
<p>Go to the school that’s the best fit for you… because, to be perfectly frank, the college has a better fit of continuing to be a good fit in 3 years than a high school boyfriend/girlfriend. You can’t even imagine how much you’ll be growing the next few years. A small percentage grow together. Most grow apart. The few that are truly meant for each other tend to either make the distance work or come back together at a later time.</p>
<p>In my college days, I went to Berkeley while my boyfriend went to Santa Cruz. We did a lot of driving back and forth choosing to stay together. When I graduated a year early, I took an internship across the country. We broke up. I found my spouse and we’ve been together 20 years. My high school/college boyfriend? Still a nice guy and friend but who lives a totally different life than I’d ever want (not a bad life… just a remote, very rustic, childless by choice life that he loves with his wife who also loves it!)</p>
<p>My daughter’s boyfriend graduates a year later. He is encouraging her to go for her dream schools for which none are local. I know he’s sad about it. I know he doesn’t love to talk about it. As a parent though, I really appreciate his backing off and trying not to allow himself to be a factor in her choice.</p>
<p>Your life has not even begun yet. Give yourself a chance and do what’s right for your future. The boyfriend thing is nothing but a distraction. TRUST ME!</p>
<p>Everyone tells me that you break up with your girlfriend within like a month of getting into college anywhere. I don’t have a girlfriend now, but when I did I didn’t get to go anywhere or do anything without her approval. </p>
<p>She was my gf for 2 years and I have been like a year without a gf and I don’t want one when I go to college. She’s already at college and I hear she already (september) broke up with the guy she was dating after me for some guy at her school.</p>
<p>You go to the school that is best for you as an individual! Part of the college experience is getting to know yourself and meeting new people (in general) is a part of that process. Sometimes, already having a boyfriend/girlfriend limits your experience, because you make decisions for the couple instead of for the individual. If it’s meant to be, things with the boyfriend/girlfriend will work themselves.</p>
<p>I would go where I wanted to regardless. They don’t usually work out.</p>
<p>If it is serious, it can work at different schools. My parents were together in high school and went to schools about an hour apart. If it’s something you see lasting, you could try to go to a school close to where they’re going. If it lasts in college they can always transfer in.</p>
<p>Go to the school that is the best fit for you. Period. If you and your significant other are meant to last, you will. But as others have said, you will both grow and blossom in college, and probably not in the same directions. This is part of life and growth. Your paths crossed for a beautiful while but I’m guessing you each have your own separate journey.</p>
<p>Wouldn’t it be the case that if each of you chooses a school that is the best fit for each of you individually, and they are different schools, that if your relationship is meant to last, it will endure through and beyond college, while if it is not meant to last, it is not worth giving up the best fit school for?</p>
<p>The worst idea that high school seniors can do is base where they are attending college based on their significant other. Like, seriously, worst decision. </p>
<p>It is so sad to see people go to a college only for their s/o to end up single, miserable, and alone. But I can’t really feel bad because said parties aren’t not thinking logically about such a huge, life-changing decision that could very well shape your entire future.</p>
<p>it would depend on how much i liked him, honestly. LOL is that pathetic? but if i REALLY loved the school…</p>
<p>so it would depend on whom i loved more lol</p>
<p>or maybe the schools are close to each other?</p>
<p>Honestly, I doubt there’d be any significant other of mine who’d be “significant” enough to keep me from going to my dream school… unless he was Ryan Reynolds, then yeah, I’d probably follow him wherever he went.</p>
<p>Oh well.</p>
<p>We’ll just have to make a long distance relationship work.</p>
<p>yeah but with everything going on in college? HOW do those work? and you would miss each other so much. personally, it would just make me sad.</p>