Okay, I’ve been freaking out right now. Long story short, I screwed up. I posted something I should’ve kept to myself on a school group chat and both the counselor and vice principal hate me. They wrote me up. How will this affect my college prospects? How could this be given to the colleges? By transcript? Common App? Counselor’s recommendation letter? Also, for schools I’ve already applied to, could this still be sent out? Do I now have to select yes, I have received disciplinary action before on my future applications (i.e. how do they verify this?)? Thank you so much!
Ask your GC what will be communicated to the colleges and if this rises to the fact that you need to disclose it to previously applied schools. Even if he/she says YES, then proceed cautiously.
Ultimately, this kind of thing isn’t uncommon and colleges are fearful of violence, criminal activity, drug abuse, etc.
I asked her and she became extremely passive aggressive and her response stooped into a bunch of personal attacks. I’m honestly scared out of my wits that what I posted, which was very much a joke by the view of the vast majority of people (a light satire of Trump), would be spun way out of proportion into sexual harassment, bullying, racism, intolerance, political radicalism, and other absolutely horrible things. I’m sorry for the tangent. Right now, I’m in the dark of what they could do. How do high schools communicate this kind of stuff with colleges?
Also, on Common App, could counselors edit or retract their recommendation letters?
@Hanna is the person to ask.
This appears to be serious. I think you should consider apologizing, to your principal and counselor, and publicly on whatever froum it was that you posted on. A big helping of humble pie is in order. Ask to meet with your vice principal, your Gc and your parents. Do this right away. If you have already applied, you might be okay, but I would want to know if the Gc plans to inform your colleges of the discipline. I think you need to involve your parents. Hopefully Hanna will have some advice. Good luck.
The counselor checked beforehand my college list. She noted that I’ve already applied to Yale (I did early action restrictive) and how I’ve already been accepted into 5 schools. I’m scared most of how this might go onto my Brown (esp. Brown), Duke, and UPenn applications in January.
They kicked me out of the group chat and a person with whom I’ve had a rivalry with is speaking with the counselor right now and using her extreme charisma to paint hell over me (milking it especially because she’s Mexican even though I mentioned no racism, even though I was parodying someone else’s views and not my own; also, she was flirting with me and I requited eventually out of boredom but never liked her because she’s extremely narcissistic and self-centered and her two friends who reported me told the VP and GC that I had a crush on her and that I’m using this fallout with her to somehow win her over with vulgarity, and so they both think I’m a pervy socially awkward creep by wild extrapolation from the meme I posted. The GC and VP called me extremely selfish with no empathy because I simply do not get how my post could offend any rational person). I’m not sure apologizing would be viable anymore, since they are clearly against me 
Sorry about the tangent, and thank you for listening to me let this out, because I’m afraid my future might be ruined.
I just spoke with my favorite teacher about it just to let it out, and she wants to speak to VP and GC about it. I’m stopping her, because I don’t want them to think I’m spreading this around to make it big.
By what mechanisms could they send this out to colleges?
Talk to your parents about this. Have them talk to the GC and VP. Right now your rhetoric is so incendiary I have no idea how much of it is real, how much is made up, and how much is your fright over the whole episode. Get an adult in there to mediate.
I’m not making anything up. There is no point in making up something to cater to strangers on the internet. I’m trying to realistically estimate my chances.
Also, I wrote a note to both the VP and the GC apologizing unconditionally.
It’s a question the GC answers on the forms she submits. They ask for some explanation.
A school employee may feel the need to go into detail, speculation, hyperbole in an official report to the principal or district. But they are usually able to summarize a disciplinary action when informing the colleges.
If this happened since you applied early, yes, she may feel the need to inform. Doesn’t matter what form, she could use email. I’m not suggesting she will, but she could. And yes, if your school reports disciplinary action, she likely will include that in the future reports.
You need to handle this maturely, not make excuses. If she reports, you need to check the box, then supply the required explanation. Skip the sidebars about a “Mexican” friend and her affection, what you think of her personality. Sheesh, if you want a top school, focus on the right things, clarify your thinking.
Sheesh is right. OP, someone else should speak for you. The more you talk, the more the hole you’ve dug for yourself looks like a grave.
You’re undoubtedly correct for not mentioning all the little personal details, lookingforward. I was super agitated when I wrote it and I just needed to let some of it out. I’ve calmed down now. Thank you to everyone so far for your inputs.
Now I’m really worried about the counselor. If she does send something like this to the colleges, say to Yale and Rice, which are still evaluating me, how severe would it be to each?
What are the odds that schools that have already accepted me would rescind it over such a report (I’ve been accepted into only pretty safe schools so far, such as Cincinnati and Alabama Birmingham Honors)?
Also, could the counselor edit or replace her recommendation letter?
This morning in the meeting, my counselor was SUPER pissed when I asked her at the end of the meeting about how this would go down for school records, talking about how I have no empathy and all I care about is how to get things for myself and not for the people who saw my post (which I apologized for out of obligation but still simply cannot come to accept could be offensive at all) and went on to more scathing personal attacks. As I mentioned, I gave her a letter telling her how I was so wrong about everything. Now, I feel seriously uncomfortable about asking her whether she will give this to colleges and thus whether to put this on my Common App. What should I do?
Oh, and btw, just to clarify, the “Mexican” ex-friend (let’s call her Z) is the one who orchestrated this whole fiasco.
You orchestrated the fiasco, I am sorry to say. Involve your parents. You need some help.
Have you read #9? The more you write, the less sympathy I have for you. You obviously posted something that is offensive to everyone who reads it (except you) and you still have not come to grips with the consequences of what you did.
Let me guess. I deal with a lot of prisoner petitions and one has to read between the lines. Here’s my take. You tried to put the moves on a girl and she was not interested and then you posted some very disgusting comments on a school chat site and you’re surprised that people are offended. How close am I?
Feel free to tell me that I’m completely off base, but I found your post that she “is the one who orchestrated this whole fiasco” very offensive. YOU are the one who posted whatever you posted.
If you do manage to weasel out of this chances are that you will screw up in college and get expelled.
Could be the poster tried to “speak” like the PEOTUS “ironically” (thinking it obvious everyone would know he’s poking fun at the style) and discovered that irony doesn’t translate online well due to reception differences. Or perhaps offended both sides of the aisle.
On the other hand, it could be what #14 indicates…
@MYOS1634 - who is/are “the PEOTUS”?
@GnocchiB, I think MYOS 1634 is referring to the President Elect of the US.
I think he is referring to the pres elect of the US.