<p>Okay, I have had these two friends since 8th grade. One is an ex girlfriend of one year while the other is her friend. I always was over at the friends house, and it was definatly my second home( I was there 4-5 times a week). However, recently, they have gotten new friends and my ex's friend completely hates me. Now, both are not happy with me, so I no longer talk to them. It has been like two weeks, but I still don't know what to do. They meant so much to me, and now they are gone. What do you think I should do? Should I try and start over, or try and make things better?</p>
<p>what did you do?</p>
<p>^yea, what happened?..I’m curious.</p>
<p>I’ve dealt with similar situations. Sometimes its hard to let go, but often it’s the only option. People change and grow apart; it’s a part of life.</p>
<p>On the contrary, if they’re just not speaking to you over some petty issue or there is something to be resolved, the friendship is definitely worth reconsidering if you’re both willing. Talk to them and see what’s up, if their attitudes are still the same, it’s time to move on.</p>
<p>ive had that happen with some friends. I think they just got annoyed with me. So i gave them their time. Stayed on my own for a coupla weeks. A while later, they came back to me asking me why i didnt hang out with them (in actuality, they were the ones ignoring me first >_>), so ya.</p>
<p>Sit down and talk with them–you’ll either be able to work things out or you won’t. People change, stuff happens.</p>
<p>It was kinda dumb. I told a very, very, very big secret about my ex’s sister, who is also my friend, to a good friends of mine. I told her not to tell this one person, a friend of mine and hers who talks to ex and her friend all the time. I made her swear, and she did. The ONLY reason I told her was to warn her that her BF was a liar when he said he has only sltp with two girls, because I know he didnt’, because my ex’s sister did. Well, the person I told told the girl I told her not to tell(ha, lots of tolds) and that girl told my ex, the ex’sher friend, and ex’s sister. So, I felt really badly, and apologized like I never had before. The ex’s sister forgave me, which I can’t believe she did becasue it was a big deal and I told someone.So, now my friends are mad at me for what I did, even though it has nothing to do with them.They have been drifting away for a while, so this was the final straw.</p>
<p>Sounds like drama to me ;0 </p>
<p>Like technol said, see if your friends are willing to mend your friendship and give it some time, otherwise just let it go… it’s high school and your life is not nearly close to being over.</p>
<p>Did you explain to your friends why you told???</p>
<p>you have alot of drama</p>
<p>I tried to comprehend your post rmadden15, but I have to say, I still have no idea what you are talking about other than that it sounds like something one of lohan/speares/hilton would talk about.</p>
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This is very confusing. I’m not really sure who is who.</p>
<p>This is the reason why you should keep your mouth shut and let things just go the way it is supposed to. People live and learn. You should’ve just kept the secret to yourself. Not everyone is worth trusting and you can clearly see that. Try and ask your friends for forgiveness and see if you can make amends.</p>
<p>A similar thing happened to me but I ended up forgiving mybest friend because we are waay too attached to each other to split and on top of that, we are heading to the same college so it was essential for me to forgive him.</p>
<p>^ I know. Um, sorry about the post, it is confusing, esspecially since I did not use names.</p>
<p>I say use fake names, it’ll keep things less confusing. Name somebody Kate and somebody else Jane.</p>
<p>If apologizing to your friends doesn’t work, then give them some space. It’ll hurt to let your friends go, but sometimes it’s important to move on if being forgiven is not an option. Meanwhile, you can take away from this experience the important lesson of how quickly information spreads when you blab.</p>
<p>I would advise you to go to your friends and sincerely apologize. Tell them that you don’t expect them to trust you but you’ll do your best to win their trust back. If they’re worth your time they’ll consider what you say.</p>
<p>^^ Haha my name’s Kate. That’s random because nobody ever has my name. Anyways…</p>
<p>Honestly, you should not have said anything and they have good reason to be mad. However, I would try apologizing and if not then you’re simply going to have to get new friends. Same sort of thing happened to me at the beginning of the year, although I didn’t do anything, but you realize that if people are in your past then there is a REASON why they’re in your past and not in your present. Meaning, move on. Until they want to forgive you, if they ever do, then there’s nothing you’re going to be able to do about it.</p>
<p>^ That is what I did for my ex’s friend, whom the secret was about. She was mad at first, then dissapointed, and now she is okay. She acceted my apology and we are cool. My ex is not mad at me, because she just wants to stay out of it. However, my ex’s friend, who has nothing to do with it, is mad at me. I tried to talk, but she ignored me. I think I will go down there in the middle of the summer and just talk to everyone, after getting Holly’s, ex’s friend, approval. If I do, this all will work out. If not, I will have to let them go. Lol, it sounds so dramatic.</p>
<p>^^ Wait, I’m confused then. Is the ex’s friend your other best friend? Sorry this whole no-names thing is hard to follow.</p>
<p>I’m sorry, but if the friendships was deteriorating anyways then it might simply be time to move on. You’ll make new friends =].</p>
<p>Jesus! This thread title made me think that they died or something… Get over it and make some new friends.</p>