Need Closure on Friendship

<p>Any advice on how to achieve closure on a friendship that's been dead for over two years? </p>

<p>Basically, my "best" friend freshman year cut me out of her life completely out of the blue at the end of that year. We were planning on rooming together sophomore year, but the week we were supposed to sign up for housing she came and said she didn't want to room together. OK fine-I was upset, no doubt, but I could have gotten over it. </p>

<p>But then she completely ignored me. Wouldn't make eye contact with me when we passed in the hall, blocked me from her facebook, it was like our year of friendship was completely erased. I admit to not necessarily handling the situation perfectly at the time (there may have been a few pictures that made their onto facebook that she was cropped out of), but what can I say? I was still an immature freshman. </p>

<p>So I moved on, found other roommates, got on with my life, but now we're going to be in a class together this semester so I've found myself thinking of her more often in recent weeks. I guess a lot of it could be simple curiousity as to where her life is going as we look towards graduation, but also what the heck happened to make her cut me off like that (though, I know of at least three other people to whom she's done the same thing in the last two years).</p>

<p>Looking back, the separation was probably a good thing in the long-term, as I was giving a lot more to the friendship than I was getting back, it was just the way in which we split that was the issue. So now I'm wondering if anyone can give me some advice on getting past this? I really don't like that she's on my mind so much, and I also don't want to get distracted once we're in class together.</p>

<p>Don’t sit near her…unless you slept with her boyfriend, then you should just switch out of the class.</p>

<p>Talk to her. Or send her an e-mail if that makes it easier. Just discuss how you’re not best friends anymore, but don’t want to be awkward and ignore each other all the time. That’s literally the only way anything’s going to stop being awkward for you during class with her.</p>

<p>You cropped her out of Facebook pictures? …lol. </p>

<p>Sorry. Never heard of anyone doing that :P</p>

<p>[EDIT]: Have you tried talking to her? Don’t let your pride get in the way of reconciling a friendship. Just apologize, maybe explain your side, admit your faults, etc. I’ll warn you though, some people are stubborn and won’t talk. And if you’re going to send an email or a text, don’t make it long and dramatic. That’s creepy.</p>