My parents are stressing me out!!!!

<p>Apparently on “Glee” last year, they had a bit about a B being “an Asian F”. While an exaggeration, I think there is some truth to that. Most Asian parents have VERY high expectations of their children. I think part of this is immigrant mentality…“we moved to America so that you could have better opportunities, so you have to make the most of them”. (Remember again, that I am the immigrant Asian son of immigrant Asian parents myself.)</p>

<p>But here’s a link to some coverage of a recently published study that “Tiger Mom” parenting doesn’t work. Worth reading, IMO.</p>

<p>["Tiger</a> Mom? study shows the parenting method doesn?t work. - Slate Magazine](<a href=“http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2013/05/_tiger_mom_study_shows_the_parenting_method_doesn_t_work.html]"Tiger”>"Tiger Mom” study shows the parenting method doesn’t work.)</p>

<p>I would also recommend the book “How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity and Character” by Paul Tough as a thoughtful tiger mom antidote. Guess what current research tells us is the number one thing most likely to interfere with a child’s ability to learn? Not poverty or lack of opportunity - but stress! This is not an icky how-to book but rather a summary of recent educational studies that upends our current reliance on standardized tests as an accurate measure of potential or intelligence and points out instead that intangibles like character, discipline, and curiosity are far more accurate predictors of a child’s future success. </p>

<p>[How</a> Children Succeed | Paul Tough](<a href=“http://www.paultough.com/the-books/how-children-succeed/]How”>How Children Succeed | Paul Tough)</p>

<p>My parents are actually not that strict with schoolwork. They used to put so much pressure on my older brother if he even got one point off on a test but now I feel that they trust me more with SCHOOL things though. I never said they’re giving me an easier time with boarding school things.</p>

<p>But hey, at least I’m free for school things. When I get a not-so-good grade I tend to not tell them and just try to raise my grade with exrta credit and corrections.</p>

<p>BTW: How do I find out my overall GPA? My school only hands out number grades such as my overall science grade for the year and things like that.</p>

<p>[Mercersburg</a> Academy ~ Paul Tough to Give Class of ?48 Lecture December 9](<a href=“http://www.mercersburg.edu/podium/default.aspx?t=204&nid=690261]Mercersburg”>http://www.mercersburg.edu/podium/default.aspx?t=204&nid=690261)</p>