<p>... for a day. I'm not the type of person to use or bring my cellphone, and my cellphone wasn't working at the moment. How often do you call your parents, and how can I convince them that I'm not being abducted every time I don't call them?</p>
<p>This is not the first time. They almost called the police another time that I didn't call and I tried to convince them that it wasn't that serious.</p>
<p>I think you need to talk to them …</p>
<p>When I was away I called my parents once a week but my mom would text me like everyday lol. If I miss a call she would just spam my phone not call the police. I think there’s an issue here you need to address… They are worried and taking it really overboard.</p>
<p>This is some serious over-kill helicopter parenting. You need to talk to them and set some guidelines about how often to call/text them.</p>
<p>you may want to read this thread … <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1557117-how-long-do-you-wait-hear-child.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1557117-how-long-do-you-wait-hear-child.html</a> … same topic coming from the parents side … and different parents/families have very different expectations.</p>
<p>just make a plan with your parents and stick to it.</p>
<p>And some parents wonder why their children move thousands of miles away and make minimal visits. OP I am sorry that you are having to deal with this, and don’t you dare let anyone make you feel guilty or like you are in any way the bad guy or that you somehow “made” your parents do this. They are being absurd. </p>
<p>You need to set firm expectations–say you will call every other day, for example. Keep to those expectations and don’t give your parents anything more. If they want a mature, non-regimented type of communication with you, they have to actually act mature.</p>
<p>Yeah. Most parents are wondering why their kids are moving back home after college, not why they moved away. </p>
<p>If you are paying for your college and your cell phone, I wouldn’t worry about it. If you are still financially dependent on your parents, you’re gonna have to play by some of their rules. Fact of life</p>
<p>And if your parents’ “rules” are set on controlling you instead of recognizing you as an actual, autonomous being, I think you are quite justified in distancing yourself as much as possible once their means of control are no longer effective. So many of my former students have made themselves so much more happier and empowered by moving far, far away (in a couple of cases, even crossing oceans) from their parents.</p>
<p>Yep. </p>
<p>I certainly did so with my parents. But mostly because they wanted to make me financially responsible for them</p>
<p>As soon as a kid can get independent financially, they are absolutely free to do as they please. Just be careful giving dependent adults advice they can’t actually afford to take</p>
<p>I think you ask the local police station if they are willing to bill your parents for the use of emergency personnel in non-life threatening calls. Additionally, you need to:
tell them to grow up and Back off; and that you are ** doing drugs, having unprotected sex with the professors and the greek houses, and missing classes because you were arrested for prostitution. Then say: “that’s what you want to hear, right?”**<br>
Tell your parents that although you appreciate their concern, you went away to college for a number of reasons and that one of them was to become independent. Then text them: I’m fine, classes are okay, friends are fine.</p>
<p>I’ve seen this backfire. </p>
<p>Only do the above if your parents are funny people. </p>
<p>A friend of mine’s husband stopped paying tuition for an unresponsive kid. I would never do that, but I wouldn’t call the cops either. </p>
<p>Know your audience. Particularly if you are still dependent on them. Living away from home is not something they HAVE to fund. A few texts might give you far more freedom than a rebellion, however justified.</p>
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<p>the only time my parents called the police because of me was when i attacked my paintings with a knife. but didn’t they see it was a calculated act in protest of the confiscation of my laptop? apparently not…</p>
<p>Okay its fine to keep in touch with your parents. I text my mom every day and talk to them every other day or so. If I can’t get in touch with them because my phone died etc . . I send a quick email saying that or that I’m busying/studying. </p>
<p>I’m a sophomore, I can’t change my parents views, but I try to adjust to it and they have mellowed out a bit too</p>
<p>Obviously your parents went a bit off the deep end.</p>
<p>But part of becoming an adult is learning to be less self-centered and to learn to appreciate the feelings of those around you. YOU might not be missing your parents at all, but you need to appreciate that they might be missing you a whole lot.</p>
<p>So, instead of always waiting for your parents to initiate contact with you, and you groaning about it because it’s always at an inconvenient or inappropriate time–take the initiative, and contact them first–a quick call while you are walking from your dorm to the library always works. Or send them a quick text–“All is good. Lots of stuff in the next few days, I will call you this weekend!” That way they won’t worry if you go incommunicado for a few days. (and then call them this weekend, while you are walking between destinations, or doing laundry, or whatever).</p>
<p>This approach will have dual benefits–you will assuage your parents’ worry, and it will give you more control over communications with home.</p>