My parents don't think I am responsible enough to go to college far from home?

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<p>My mom doesn't think I am responsible enough to take care of myself at a college far away from my home and not to mention the with housing/board fees and food. She wants me to go to university that's close (USF) and I am fine with that, I just think that there are better universities out there (all are in-state UCF,FSU,UF). But to be honest, I am also a little scared of being by myself...but those are just feelings that you can get used to after awhile. Can't grow up and move on unless you're given the chance and time to right?</p>

<p>Should I keep being persistent in having them allow me to apply to universities far away or stay at home?</p>

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<p>Try to get them to let you at least apply to a couple that aren’t near home, although only colleges you can afford to attend. Be sure to run the cost calculators for them, too. Then you can make a choice in late April. Six months from now they might think you are more responsible, especially if you work hard to show them that you are.</p>

<p>Are you saying that not only does she want you to apply close to home, but she also wants you to live at home? How do you feel about that? It costs more to live on campus, but it is a pretty integral part of the four year college experience.</p>

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<p>I will try to apply behind them for now. She most definitely wants me to live at home! I feel somewhat neutral about that, but it would be nice to live away from home and on campus for college experience. My mom is just like “study hard, make money, who cares about experience? What is that nonsense you talk about? I no waste my money on that! You go drive to school!”</p>

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<p>Actually, the “college experience” for a very large percentage of college students is commuting to the local college or university.</p>

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<p>My mom says the same thing about me all the time…she hasn’t let it influence where I can apply though, lol.</p>

<p>In all fairness, it sounds as though your mom is being really unfair to you. If you want to apply to other colleges away from home, that’s your right and it is not your mom’s concern. Choosing a college is the first adult decision that you make and while most people value parental input, the decision is ultimately yours.</p>

<p>Is your mom an immigrant (based on your imitation of her, it sounds that way…)? If so, does she come from a culture where parents generally make a lot of decisions for their adult children and family life is considered extremely important? If so, she might not understand that in the US the “college experience” is considered very important.</p>

<p>I find that the best way to persuade my mom to do everything is to recruit one of her friends to my cause, btw. Or you could compromise and offer to go to community college or USF for a year or two and then transfer to whatever college you want. After all, if she doesn’t think you’ll be ready at age 20, when exactly is she planning to cut the apron strings? Finally, you could defy her wishes and apply wherever you want. The only problem is that you need her cooperation in order to pay for college and get financial aid. So you have to assess how serious she is about keeping you at home. If you presented an acceptance letter from UF or FSU, would she really go so far as to refuse to fill out the forms or would she cave? Luckily Florida has Bright Futures so maybe you won’t need as much aid.</p>

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<p>Because the college financial aid system assumes parental contributions, the student cannot be completely independent of parental control with respect to college choice until s/he reaches 24 years of age, or is married, or is a military veteran.</p>

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<p>Try this…</p>

<p>1) Do your chores without being asked…and do some EXTRA chores!</p>

<p>2) clean up after yourself…don’t leave dishes, glasses, wrappers around. Keep your room and bathroom neat!</p>

<p>3) know where your stuff is!</p>

<p>4) follow house rules</p>

<p>5) do your own laundry</p>

<p>6) go to bed on time and wake up on time without being reminded.</p>

<p>If you do these things (and maybe some more things), and your parents will likely start thinking of you in more mature terms.</p>

<p>however, it they’re also concerned that they can’t afford room and board costs, that may be another issue.</p>

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<p>I have a feeling you read one of my ramblings somewhere else. :stuck_out_tongue: lol
I wish doing these things in one month would convince my mom. I mess up in any one of those…she starts bringing up my irresponsibility again and it’s embedded.
But she is also concerned with room, board, and food costs. I am unsure of my chances of getting a scholarship to cover/make up for those costs, though.</p>

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<p>“Is your mom an immigrant (based on your imitation of her, it sounds that way…)? If so, does she come from a culture where parents generally make a lot of decisions for their adult children and family life is considered extremely important? If so, she might not understand that in the US the “college experience” is considered very important.”</p>

<p>Mmmgirl, yes, she is all of the above to all of your questions. I hoped for that to not be rude sounding. But yes that is very much our family background. She does allow for me to go to college for two or four years and then go away. And I am also on Bright Futures, but we haven’t thought about how much it covers but probably not that much since many people apply.</p>