<p>Only if they are demanding/ nurturing in a good way, not beat the **** out of me if I fail or whack me around if I don't know something.</p>
<p>REason why I sometimes get Bs is that I'm bad at english!! I can't write essays! Also, hes korean and was kicked out of his house because he wasn't the top 10% of his class at an elite private school! He had a GPA of 3.5... So to this day he hates his parents...</p>
<p>OP, this must be a tough and challenging situation to work through. A couple thoughts.
* If your parents continue to be so inflexible I'd suggest you find another adult or recent college grad to whom you can talk through you school / college search issues in a more collaborative manner ... having someone to help you work through issues is priceless.
* The issue I would try to influence your parents thinking directly is their focus on the top 20 schools. There are probably 200+ schools who would provide a great education for any top student and the question is how to open your parents eyes to the other possiblities ... the trick is how to do it through their eyes. If they are so focussed on top schools I'd suggest things like these buying the US News Report with the college rankings ... the "top" schools in the ranking will be much more than the 20 they are thinking ... public Us, private Us, and LACs. Buying a few college selection books for yourself and leaving them in public places your parents might read them (others can help me here ... Colleges that change lives, Fiske Guide, Best 361 Colleges, Harvard Schmarvard, etc). Do you have cousins or fmaily friends who have gone to schools other than the top 20 and have done great that can help you out?</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>Oh right and my only other advice is to try to please them as much as you can for the time being, hunker down, and wait to get the hell out of there. One more year... one more year.</p>
<p>My mom got SOO mad at me in 7th grade when I got the god-forbidden B in Home-Ec. I had missed three days of it, in fact the three days that we learned how to use the stupid sewing machine, so I fell behind. My teacher never took the time to teach me how to use it and I had no clue either, so I ended up with a C+ and a D- on our two sewing projects. Oh, and I didn't have near enough time to finish them either, since not even half the class that did not miss a day did before the end of the quarter. And I did do extra credit too, and only with my 98 average from the first half kept me at a B. My mom was furious even though I had A's/A+'s for the rest of my classes. </p>
<p>In sixth grade she made me CRY (one of the moments I don't tell my friends about lol) after I got a 92 because she yelled at me so much. It was dumb too, because I just flat out did not understand the workbook pages we did but she did not understand that (ironic I guess). And yet again, that was accompanied by 97's and above in my other classes. And plus it was junior high.</p>
<p>I have not gotten a B since, though I have started out every quarter at progress reports in AP Lit with a B. I tried to tell my mom that my teacher told my class that everyone's grades would be higher at report cards because of extra credit and such, but my mom still got mad at me for choosing that class instead of AP Chemistry. In the end, I would always get an A (usually something like a 96 after having an 89), most of the time without the extra credit. And I proved to her I could do good in English when I got a 4 on the AP test (and especially after the AP Chem class got cancelled lol). She always thought I was doing it because all my friends were taking that class (which they were) but I was doing it to focus in on my weaknesses. My PSAT/SAT/ACT scores and my essay writing abilities would not be anywhere close to where they are now without that class. Chemistry would have just given me a headache in the end (plus it was a bad teacher).</p>
<p>I guess in the end parents do want the best for you, but you are the only one who truly knows yourself and by now should be able to know what is best for you. Parents will be parents, and always know that we are all experiencing similar problems. Sometimes it takes the fear of the repercussions to stay up that extra couple of hours to study for that A on tomorrow's test.</p>
<p>Yeah I agree with erhswimming...Parents can be hella annoying when they are deluded about stuff, so just shut up and take it when they yell at you, and just keep thinking in your head "I'll do the best I can, I'll do what it takes...my mom will yell at me but who cares, I'll do what I know is right."</p>
<p>whew... Didn't get any Bs this year, I'm so relieved... Next year I'm taking 3 APs and 3 honors, don't know how hard it is to maintain all As...</p>
<p>I'm very glad to hear that u did not get killed by ur parents. Disowned I mean.</p>
<p>parents are crazy. each and every one of them. especially asian parents. </p>
<p>and right now im in the process of skipping 3 years of school. hopefully. talk about pressure</p>
<p>Now i know why you are so negative all the time</p>
<p>Some parents need to know that it's actually THEIR fault that their kid isn't doing well.</p>
<p>haha true RMERJV</p>
<p>Hmm, kicked out of a house for having B? No offense, but I think that is psychological disease.
My parents only demand for me to pass, everything else is clearly my responsibility. Person in high school is usually old enough to take responsibility for actions, that is what matureness means.</p>
<p>Some people in HS are clearly responsible. Others (like me) are total idiots and goof-offs.</p>
<p>actually i wish i had parents like that.. yeha m black. and as lone as i pass my parents are okay.. yea i got all A's but do they care? hell no</p>
<p>Ikwame/ Good grades = gOod life for you and for your parents, dont see why they dont care..</p>
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Ikwame/ Good grades = gOod life for you and for your parents
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You put too much emphasis on grades.</p>
<p>deff. have to agree with mr_chipset!!</p>
<p>my parents have the same strict policy...hence only getting 1 B+ freshman year</p>
<p>the prob is my parents were really smart...being middle-class from a 3rd world country (pakistan) and getting admitted in UCBerkeley in the 70s was a pretty accomplished feat...plus my mom was number 1 in her class at the top med school in the country, thats why they have high standards since they were the tops when they went to school</p>
<p>Rebel against your parents...no just kidding.</p>