<p>Ok here's my dilemma.
I am a college student and I live in the dorms at my school. I signed up for housing late so I got randomly placed in the first open room. </p>
<p>I am a very introverted person and on top of that I just switched to this school this year so I don't have any friends. Me and my roommate barely ever speak except for the occasional hi or bye. I don't do much other than go to classes, listen to music or watch something on Netflix, and when I do that I always keep it down and wear headphones so I don't bother him. I'm overweight but I'm taking care of it I've already lost 35 pounds since the beginning of the semester. I bathe twice a day and 3 times if I work out. I brush my teeth wear deodorant and cologne everyday. So I don't think it is a hygiene problem. Him and I wake up around the same time and if I wake up earlier I am quick to turn my alarm off so I don't disturb him. He isn't here very often and when he is he does little more than listen to music usually without headphones (but that doesn't bother me) or talk on the phone which also doesn't bother me. I don't eat in the room beacuse I don't want to bother him with the smell. I keep all my belongings either under my bed or on my desk, and his things are just where he leaves them his side of the room is a mess but again I don't have a problem with that. </p>
<p>The reason I know he doesn't like me is because Iv'e heard him talk publically about me and how he doesn't like me. I've heard him say he hates me multiple times, but he never gives a reason. Like I stated before I am a very shy person so I am scared to confront him about it.</p>
<p>I really have no idea why he doesn't like me but I wish I did. The only thing I can think of is he doesn't like fat people, but I dont know.</p>
<p>Sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, some people will pre-judge and there is nothing you can do. It is not really about you, it is about who they are- sorry to be so cliche!
Go find some clubs to join, activities to get involved in. Meet new people. Trying to make this person like you is not worth your time.</p>
<p>I don’t want to be friends with him I just don’t want him to hate me, and talk crap about me. Im fine with the fact that I have little to no friends and it doesnt really bother me too much. What bothers me is he talks about me when I just keep to myself and try not to affect his life in any way.</p>
<p>If you get active, make some friends, and get involved in more clubs, etc., he’s less likely to say mean stuff about you. And you’ll be happier, too–if you are around other people more, you won’t care what he says about you.</p>
<p>Jarod, you are not going to stop him. He is doing that because of something about HIM, not about YOU. If you try to stop him, he will do it more. That is how these people are. Get out, go do things, meet someone you can go to the gym with and work out…or other activities. He is just one of those people that you need to learn to ignore. Sorry there is not more active advice than that.</p>
<p>As an extreme introvert myself, I am well accustomed to reasonless condescension from extroverts. I doubt this is your first time experiencing it? Perhaps the first time it’s been a major issue.</p>
<p>It’s just how a large number of people treat your type. Apparently there’s something repulsive and unnatural about not wanting to party from midnight to 4 am every Saturday and Sunday. A lot of people see it that way, at least. Many aren’t repulsed by it, but do find it unnatural and seem confused by it. That’s how my room mate last year was. But we got along all right because he eventually respected that preference. I was fortunate in that respect.</p>
<p>He was fairly loud though and that annoyed me quite a bit. So I spent a lot of time in libraries. Apparently that gave people the impression that I’m more outgoing than I actually am, since I was rarely in my dorm. Maybe you should give it a shot.</p>
<p>Jarod -
I echo the rest of the posters when i say that it is his problem, and the happier you are with yourself the less it will bother you. Of course no one likes to be unliked, especially with no apparent reason, but face it - he’s just a jerk. Get out there, join a few groups, slowly you will make some friends - not everyone does it in an instant. Also - congrats on your weight loss! That’s no easy thing - you should feel terrific about it.</p>
<p>It’s not about you–so that’s a ditto to everyone here. Some people are just like that and unfortunately there isn’t much you can do except ignore them (that is hard at times but it’s gotta be done otherwise you’ll waste too much energy worrying).
Stop tippy-toeing around him–I’m sure he picks up on it and he thinks of you as spineless (and treats you accordingly). Demand some respect and he’ll probably give you some.
Congrats on your weight loss! Go find some like-minded people to hang out with!</p>