<p>Just a quick question:I am sure you all had some experiences with it.</p>
<p>Let's imagine you talked with your roommate a lot on the first day,had lunch and stuff,but then after that,he stops talking to you?His door is always closed,and you don't get a chance to talk to him.You sometimes ask stupid questions(just to get a conversation),but he answers and then goes straight to his room.In the meantime,his making friends outside and not talking to you here.</p>
<p>Whats the problem here?You or him?</p>
<p>Btw:he brings friends to his room,and the doors locked.You don't even hear anything let alone know if they are there.</p>
<p>Weird theory:maybe he's gay and trying to hide it?</p>
<p>sounds like hes the problem. you’re not always gonna be friends with the people you live with. and it doesn’t sound like you guys are roommates if he can go into his own room… suitemates?</p>
<p>but the point is,why the sudden hate?it makes zero sense that talking in the first day will make you hate someone this fast.And as always,I start blaming myself for this since I always wanna make sure that there are no problems between us.But how I can solve it with no cooperation?</p>
<p>I remember having 1 roommate last year,the only problem is is that he talks too much lol.</p>
<p>A lot of people are closeminded and tend to not give other people the chance to make a fair impression before investing time into a friendship. Maybe your roommate got a bad impression of you? Or just assumed you guys wouldn’t be good friends and left it at that? Idk. Kind of guessing why he’s doing what he’s doing.</p>
<p>Just end up doing your own thing and forget about it then I’m pretty sure he’ll come running back. If not then fogettabout it and do your own thing.</p>
<p>@andrew - Nobody mentioned anything about sudden hatred. You’re overthinking it, he met you yes, was nice that first day yes, and then probably decided that he’s not your type of friend after he got to know you.</p>
<p>Hahaha, i’m sorry but why do you know when his door is locked? If you try to open it and he’s in there he’ll definitely avoid you lmao</p>
<p>If he meets other people and has friends over I doubt he’s introverted. He probably just doesn’t find you to be interesting or whatever so just do your own thing.</p>
<p>Andrew, I think you’ve hit on something that befuddles a lot of people including me.</p>
<p>I’ve come to learn there are two schools of thought on roommates.
A) roommates are people you cohabitate with because you have similar habits, not necessarily interests. i.e. you study late so keep the light on, you like to share things, you’re messy, so you don’t mind messiness etc. Some interpret roommates as people you need to get along with, but somehow this person is not your friend. Friends come from those who share common interests, and you will find them in your classes and ECs.</p>
<p>B) those who believe that okay, we’re together because we share things in common; therefore this is a good basis for a friendship. We were put together (or selected each other on line) because we share common interests. I’d like to be friends with my roommate and do things together and maybe even develop a deeper friendship. I think we’ve all heard stories about “college roommates,” who have developed lifelong friendships.</p>
<p>It seems that you’re either in one camp or the other and never the two shall meet. Those who espouse concept A above, can’t figure out why the roomie is trying to be friends, whereas if you espouse concept B, you can’t figure out why the roomie doesn’t wanna have anything to do with you.</p>
<p>If you’re a plan B’er, I recommend you stop trying and just say, oh well, not what I figured on and move on. Stop chasing. Develop friendships with others who want to be your friend and take an active interest. You hafta get over the hurt, but once this befuddlement is now clear, it’s easy to move on.</p>
<p>sorry,should have mentioned we were suitmates.</p>
<p>And for the past few weeks,I have moved on and focused on my own things.But gets awkward that your suitmate and you do not talk for weeks.But I guess I was too intimidating for him or something.Hes from small town.</p>
<p>And honestly,next year I am going to Texas Tech and away from this commuter school.Can’t wait!</p>
<p>@Marco I just guessed its locked since he always closes the door.Sometimes you really wanna know what going on in that brain.</p>
<p>I’m having the same issue except we’re actually roommates. It’s just really awkward. I’ll try to talk to her and she’ll flat-out ignore me. I think part of the problem may be that she’s a sophomore and I’m a freshman. I’m guessing she probably requested a single and is ****ed she didn’t get it because our freshman class is over capacity so they didn’t allow singles this year in any of the underclassman dorms…or maybe she just doesn’t like me XD</p>
<p>Yeah, in this situation its just better to forget about it and move on. I’m not saying you should be rude or ignore them whenever you see them, but if they don’t show an interest in getting to know you just focus on getting to know other people.</p>
<p>Back in the stone age, I had a roommate who I barely saw or spoke to. We had a very unique room–it was the only one on campus that literally had two different doors, each off a separate stairwell, so we didn’t even have to see each other. We ended up having two weeks or so where we got along great, but other than that it was civil but rather chilly–I think I saw her maybe two or three times over the rest of college. </p>
<p>Just because you share a dorm room doesn’t mean you have to be best buds. There were other people who were inseparable the first month, and by Thanksgiving they had to be switched because they were fighting so badly.</p>
<p>Funny thing is yesterday I saw an asian guy coming out of his room(when I clearly saw my suitemate passing me outside),wont say anything and went straight to his room lol.I would not even know he would have been there since there was absolutely no noise coming out.</p>
<p>Plus he had his shirt open all the way down,in his shorts,which begs me to believe is why was he there like that?Enough with the gay theories now.</p>
<p>My mod-mates probably think this about me lol…</p>
<p>But the thing is, i don’t exactly click with them. We are friendly, but I would probably never hang out with them. They played high school football, and I’m in the marching band. Maybe your mate just doesn’t “click” with you?</p>
<p>They might be one of those people who can’t handle life, so they straight-out ignore certain things… I don’t know why you’re trying to force a relationship… aaawkwaaard… Life is too short for Socially Awkward Penguin shenanigans…</p>
<p>Hmm, knew in my heart you was the same mother****er bad
Go toe to toe when it’s time for roll you got a brother’s back
And I can’t even trip, cause I’m just laughin at cha
You tryin’ hard to maintain, then go head
'cause I ain’t mad at cha</p>
except we’re actually roommates. It’s just really awkward. I’ll try to talk to her and she’ll flat-out ignore me. I think part of the problem may be that she’s a sophomore and I’m a freshman. I’m guessing she probably requested a single and is ****ed she didn’t get it because our freshman class is over capacity so they didn’t allow singles this year in any of the underclassman dorms…or maybe she just doesn’t like me XD</p>