<p>So I posted about this a few months ago, but it wasn't so bad back then. Basically, my room-mate seems to hate everyone on campus and does not want to meet or get to know anyone. When people introduce themselves and ask for his name, he always gives them a different (fake) name. He's also never in the room, other than sleeping. He wakes up very early in the morning and comes back late at night to go to sleep. He's always in the library or at the gym working out by himself, and I nor other guys on residence have ever seen him with anyone else on campus. The few times he's been in the room and I a friend or two come over, he immediately leaves and doesn't come back until its time we go to sleep. Why is this guy so anti-social and how do I deal with this? It seems he hates everyone and carries a massive chip on his shoulder. He also goes home every weekend (takes the train home) and I've never seen his parents before. Should I be worried? He's so secretive. I've asked him if he has a facebook and he told me he doesn't, even though a friend found him on facebook and he surprisingly didn't look so anti-social (there was even girl in his arms in his display pic). </p>
<p>Do you think if me and a couple other guys on the floor go to the RA about this that they will do something about it? The guy is basically treating all of us like random strangers he sees on the streets every day.</p>
<p>Eh… What do you think the RA will do? Kick the guy out because he ignores you? The most that can happen is that you request that you be moved to a different room (and even then that probably won’t happen).</p>
<p>I don’t know why this is a bad thing. IMO having a roommate who’s never in the room is perfectly fine because it basically means you would have the room all to yourself. In my experience, most roommates do NOT become your “best friend,” or even a normal friend at all.</p>
<p>Since he’s made it so clear he doesn’t want to be friends, maybe you could just give him his space?</p>
<p>I re-read your post and it seems that you are basically saying that he acts “creepy.” Is that true?</p>
<p>Social anxiety? I used to avoid everyone and do everything by myself.</p>
<p>Unless you see signs that your roommate might be about to hurt someone (including himself) or is doing something illegal that concerns you, I would let him be.</p>
<p>You’re still on about this? Where are you at where you’re still with the same roommate? It’s your roommate’s life not yours so grow up and mind your own business.</p>
<p>With how much of a nosy roommate you are, I’d avoid you as well.</p>
<p>It sounds like he just doesn’t like you. I wouldn’t either-- you sound like an incredibly frustrating roommate. Did it ever occur to you that he might have OTHER friends that you don’t know? Maybe he just doesn’t like you or your lame friends, and prefers to hang with better company (and not show them his embarrassing, nosy roommate).
When I lived in dorms, I didn’t bring friends over too much. I left before my roommate got up and came back after they went to bed. I pretty much only slept/showered/dressed there. That being said, I’m probably one of the most social people I know on campus-- I prefer to spend my days having fun with other people, rather than just sitting like a bum in my room.</p>
<p>Let it go. Only talk to the RA if you are genuinely concerned about this guy’s welfare. But if he seems fine and he just isn’t a social butterfly - let him live his life.</p>