<p>I posted this in the "Post your random thoughts" thread, but I figured I'd get more replies if I made my own thread.</p>
<p>I NEED ADVICE, PEEPS</p>
<p>The situation: I know these two people, a guy and a girl, and I am their mutual friend. We all work at the same store. I know that the girl has liked this guy for at least a year. They were signed up for cashier duty together on a slow-business day, and from my observations and what she's told me, they hit it off really well that day and talked for hours on end. I'm not sure if the guy likes the girl too, but it seems likely. They have a ton of things in common and would make such a cute couple.</p>
<p>The problem: they are both horrendously shy, especially around the opposite sex (she goes to an all-girls school and he goes to an all-boys school, no lie). Even if they both like each other, neither of them will do anything about it because they overthink everything and are too nervous to speak to each other. Both of them will expect the other to make the first move at anything, even something as simple as saying "hi" when they pass each other in the break room.</p>
<p>The question: should I intervene in this situation? I can tell that nothing will happen between them if they keep up at this pace. And if so, what should I do? Confront them together? Separately? Stage some elaborate plan so that they find out that they like each other?</p>
<p>P.S. I think every person at work EXCEPT FOR THOSE TWO knows that they like each other. I've noticed that he, who has been notoriously late every single day, has shown up EARLY, during the time when all the workers chill in the break room together (when she happens to be in the break room). And I see both of them doing the same dumb stuff: saying hi to each other in the break room, then "getting distracted" and talking to different groups of friends but talking near each other, trying to save themselves from their own self-consciousness.</p>
<p>“The question: should I intervene in this situation?”</p>
<p>Not directly. I assume you are more friendly with the girl? Encourage her to act, don’t do anything farther than that. If it doesn’t happen then it doesn’t happen.</p>
<p>I know that the girl really wants to talk to the guy, and for argument’s sake, I’m guessing it’s the same for him. I wouldn’t intervene if I didn’t know that they wanted to talk to each other. They do want to talk to each other, they just don’t know how to. That’s one of the reasons why I would intervene.</p>
<p>And the light encouragement hasn’t done much good. I spent a year “lightly encouraging” her to talk to him and nothing happened; that is, nothing happened until my boss decided to play cupid and pair up potential cute couples for cashier duty that day in order to, as she said, “meet new people”. So since intervening worked once, I wouldn’t shoot down the idea of intervening for them again.</p>
<p>I’d advise taking AP Dating, which is available at most high schools. The AP exam is a killer though, almost no one gets a 5.</p>
<p>Also, Princeton Review has one-on-one tutoring for high schoolers with this problem. It’ll cost a bit of money, though. But I think it’s worth it if the problem’s that serious.</p>
<p>@Decrescendo: Thank you very much for your input. My two friends went to schools that did not offer the course, so they tried to do an independent study for the exam. Unfortunately they did not have adequate preparation for the exam, so they both received 1s. Do you have any other study tips for the exam? They both want to retake so that they can receive college credit or exemption from the course.</p>
<p>@BMan22: OK. What should I say to each of them? Should I say something like “Hey BMan22, I think xrCalico23 likes you, you should talk to her”?</p>
<p>I used to be like this!!
Me and my first HS bf were both super shy people! He would stare at me in class but would be to shy to say a word to me! His friends intervened and told me he liked me and then we talked and got together. His friend literally made us kiss each other because we were to shy to do it! Without the help of his friends we were just so shy around each other that we ended up breaking up.</p>
<p>Then a month later I got with this guy I liked a lot who was super outgoing. He made me more comfortable and we ended up having a better relationship. Now I know what it is like and I am not as shy as I was before around other guys-yet I still tend to be around guys that are really cute haha.</p>
<p>So shy people tend to need outgoing people to bring them out of their shell, then after that they know how to take control and show significant others what they feel.</p>
<p>^Should I give up on them? Because if they end up being like you and your first HS boyfriend, I don’t think I can keep prodding them throughout their whole relationship, if they ever get that far.</p>
<p>Yeah, that’s what I’d do. Once they know that the other likes them, it makes them feel like they’re in control of things and will give them the confidence to talk to the other one.</p>
<p>Yeah well idk. You could try and if it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work its no big deal. They might end up getting comfortable with each other, but seriously nothing you do will ruin their lives haha.
But I know, me being super shy; I prefer an outgoing guy.</p>
<p>So just try to give one of them the confidence to start talking to the other.</p>
<p>Ahh, I know what you mean. My buddy, the biggest player in the grade, only got a 3. It’s a really tough course, especially with only independent study.</p>
<p>If Princeton Review isn’t an option, I’d suggest letting them work it out on their own. Lessons must be learned and such. If you really want to help them out, then helping them study for the exam would be fine, as long as you didn’t intervene too much.</p>