<p>So my best friend and I have developed a close friendship with these two guys we know. Well one guy, J, we have been friends with longer (2 years). M just started hanging out with us in the middle of this last school year. Since summer started, all four of us have been hanging out a lot and we have a great time together, but there are complications. </p>
<p>J "supposedly" likes my best friend and hints at wanting to date her. The problem with that is, he never officially asks her out because he's not much of a pursuer and she isn't either. We think M might like her as well. She feels closer to J than M. And there's me. I enjoy having fun and hanging out with our "group", but i get mixed signals from mostly M. </p>
<p>Everytime we all hang out, usually late at night, when we are bored, we dare each other to do crazy things. At first it was fun and we all really had a good time, but then the kissing came in and it makes everything difficult. When J dared M to kiss me, he seemed eagered to do so, but when J and my best friend kissed, he seemed sad to me. I don't really know what these guys are thinking. Pretty much we do all the dating stuff, but we are not in relationships. We don't know if they just think everything is not a big deal because they sure act like it's not. We try to not overthink the situation since we like them as friends for sure, but we don't know if they are truly cool with it or they really do want something more but are too afraid to confront us about it. It seems like the next time that we all hang out, everything is normal and we are all friends and we act like nothing happened.</p>
<p>We are not 100 percent for relationships because we are comfortable with where we are, but we don't know how being friends would work out if we all continue to do what we do. </p>
<p>I guess we just want some outside opinion and advice since we can't really talk to them about it due to the bias factor. </p>
<p>If you are confused with the vague information, just post something and I will post back with more details. Thanks!</p>
<p>I think the guys want an orgy seriously.</p>
<p>haha very funny hahah i'm laughing so hard hahaha actually i am now.. but that's not the point. Grrrr you don't fully understand the situation!</p>
<p>I think you need to stop caring so much about high school relationships because it's not like you'll ever see these people again once you go to college.</p>
<p>^^ thats really sad tho :(</p>
<p>I see your point, but does that mean I should disregard my close friendships just because I will be moving on to college? Not everyone loses their friendships after high school. The future is imperitave to think about, but the important things in the present need to be focused on as well.</p>
<p>im a hs student never been kissed never dated...and sure i always wanted the hs relationship..(imma rising senior) but altho im not dating and never have I got 10 men to wait on me hand and feet at school(literally i will b like this is to heavy and one will take w/e im holding out of my hand..I love them all)how many people can say u have a whole group of boys and ur the only grl</p>
<p>destinos- If you really like one of the guys (M i guess?) then go ahead with it, but it didn't sound like you really like either of them as more than friends. So if that's the case and you don't have strong feelings toward either of them then whatever you do, do not go out with them! You will only end up hurting him more in the future when you start going out with him and you're not completely sure about what you want. If/ when it feels right, then by all means go for it!</p>
<p>mcqdeltat took the words right out of my mouth. Don't overthink the situation. Seriously, they probably just want to hook up. If you and your friend feel comfortable where you are relationship status wise, then do whatever you want. Being friends with benefits is fun, and if you really can't see yourself dating them, then go for this. Surely, the guys won't mind.</p>
<p>get yourself a half-gallon and see where things go</p>
<p>I think you and your friend should just try to introduce those guys to other girls who you think they might be interested in. If they turn out to like those girls you introduced to them, that's great, you can still keep your friendship situation. If not, you could then definitely sense rejection or hesitation from them to go along with your plans, at which point they would be more frank to you and your friend about what they really feel. But if you or your friend feel strongly about any one of those guys, then either one or both of you should try to develop a relationship as long as your interests don't conflict.</p>
<p>High school is the time where you get to try out a bit of everything before you're stuck as adults and don't really have the room to experiment anymore since you don't really have to face any consequences.</p>
<p>Well I'm not saying F relationships in general. In college you get much closer with those guys because you live with them for 4 years.</p>
<p>College friends are the ones you keep for a lifetime.</p>
<p>You know what? Yeah... I'm really sick of the drama and i know that sounds really cliche because everybody here cares about college and thinks highschool is overated. I thought that having guys friends would make things easier because they are not really into the emotional stuff. However, a whole different set of "problems" comes with guy friends. I think I'm just going to try and be independent for a while. I have a lot of priorities to think aboutthis summer such as scholarship applications. Ok, well i guess i figured out my answer.. I'll let my best friend figure hers out. Thanks for the replies.. some were very entertaining lol.</p>