<p>Is there a reason your son would have to lose his social contacts if he wasn’t in school? Most homeschooled kids have lots of friends who are in school. Mine did. It’s not like the school day is optimal socializing time anyway.</p>
<p>But you and your son can figure out ways for him to stay connected to his friends. That’s not nearly as huge of a problem as the problem he’s having with school. I think if you leave him in there he’s just going to dig himself a deeper and deeper hole – and not just his GPA. It’s damaging on so many levels.</p>
<p>Yeah… and about homeschooling with “contracts” and community college classes. No. Whatever you and your son decide to do, don’t replicate a horrendously failing model. This is a hard thing to get for people who’ve bought totally into the institutional ed paradigm. You need to really up-end that whole way of looking at things for the sake of your kid. (Not saying there’s anything wrong with cc classes – just that your son needs to figure out what will work for him.)</p>
<p>Anyway – read that book. Better yet, your son should read it.</p>
<p>When my son was in the “gifted” 1st grade and my daughter was 5 years old, she was sent to some “evaluation specialist” (or some such title) prior to entering kindergarten. We already were completely fed up with our brief school experience with my son. Not that it was a bad school, I could just tell the whole enterprise was all about something that felt fundamentally wrong. (I have to say it felt fundamentally wrong to <em>me</em> – different people have different values, and it’s not my intention to debate that on a wider level.)</p>
<p>My daughter spent about a hour in a cubicle with the nice evaluator lady. This was a person who worked for the public school district where we lived at the time. An affluent community with “good” schools. When she came out she sent my little daughter over to the other side of the room to play, and she said, “My advice is for you to put her in the very best school you can afford.”</p>
<p>Well, we couldn’t afford any private school, but we had been toying with the idea of homeschooling the kids, at least temporarily until we figured something else out. That meeting sealed the deal for us. It felt like we were about to take the hands of our darling little children and jump out of an airplane.</p>
<p>Funny thing is, when we actually stepped out, it turns out that airplane was never even in the air. We left and never looked back. We didn’t know what we were doing, but kind of made it up as we went along. In retrospect it is the best choice I have ever made in my entire life.</p>
<p>So no one can tell you how to do things, or make sure of this or make sure of that. You have an exceptional kid there, and he (and you) have an exceptional life to live. Really, read that book. It will get your mind into the clean fresh air – and off that airplane.</p>