<p>Hi everyone, I'm a sophomore this year and a double major (one of which is music); last year, I made a group of friends (let's call them Group 1) who had completely different interests and hobbies from what I had...their personalities were similar to mine, but their eyes would inevitably glaze over whenever I tried to talk about music/my interests; still, they lived near me and we had some classes in common, so I stuck out the friendship for the whole year. However, the entire time, I wanted to hang out with a group of people (let's say Group 2) who have much more in common with me, considering that they're also music majors, and people who share my background; however, I didn't hang out with them much last year since I didn't want to be a ****** and ditch Group 1. This year, though, I'll be taking classes with Group 2 and thus much more in their presence, and I really want to make them my main group of friends...how can I make the switch without being a complete *****? I know that I can't just stop talking to Group 1, but I want to hang out with them much much less. There are two people, though, in Group 1, who I would consider myself close to; when I'm one-on-one with them, we have a great time, but when we're all part of a bigger group, the conversations (which revolve around sci-fi, videogames, and fantasy, NONE of which interest me) go over my head. I still want to maintain close contact with those two, but I want to make everything less awkward...do you guys have suggestions/similar experiences?</p>
<p>slowly phase out the amount of time you spend with 1, and get involved with 2 instead. you should invite group 2 to study with you or do something fun and get closer that way. when group 1 wants you to hang, say yes only about half the time.</p>
<p>Sorry, maybe it’s just me, but I don’t really see too much of a problem. I have lots of different “groups” of friends that I hang out with, and they don’t care if I do things with the other group or not. Basically if they’re your friends they shouldn’t be controlling of you and forcing you to hang out with them if you want to do stuff with the other group. I’m not saying they are controlling, but if you feel pressured by one group to hang out with them as opposed to another group, maybe you should re-evaluate your friendship. I’m sorry, I know that sounded harsh, but I didn’t mean it to be.</p>
<p>Yeah, ahenshaw has a good point. Just hang out with them once and a while so you at least have somebody to depend on when you have those classes with them. But, hang with group 2. :)</p>
<p>If you want to hang out with the new group, just tell the other group you have plans if they want to do something. You can’t worry about what they think. If they’re all anal about it, then they’re really not your friends. My best friend from high school understands when I say Im busy or going to go be with kids from my major to work or talk about something instead of hanging out with her so we just do it some other time.</p>
<p>People make new friends in college and only have a specific amount of time to devote to people. Its no big deal. </p>
<p>Just don’t completely ditch them if you still want to have a good relationship with them. Talk to them still on facebook or something, still say hi. Don’t ignore them, that would be rude.</p>
<p>I think both ahenshaw and nerd855 comment very good and impressive. I agree with you.</p>
<p>I have the same problem as OP except that I haven’t found the “Group 2” yet.. Any ideas on how to find a different set of friends as a sophomore? Was thinking of joining 1-2 clubs but any other ideas?</p>