I’m beginning to wonder about what percentages of adults make their bed everyday. I guess I used to think most people did but it appears that is not the case. Maybe have to start a new thread for that one!
“I hope the guess don’t sit on my kid’s bed. It’s inconsiderate to invite anybody to the room because there is a general living area to socialize.”
Oh goodness. Did you assume that everyone lives in suite settings where there is a common living area to socialize? Have you not heard of the far-more-common dorm settings where the only common living area to socialize might be on the first floor? Of course kids invite other kids to their room to hang out, socialize.
While I’m not fussy about the someone-sitting-on-my-bed thing (I never cared, and I’m not very germaphobic), I can see why someone might not want a stranger sitting on his / her bed.
But the mere act of making a bed is not “OCD.” It’s standard common courtesy in a shared room. Sorry, I think it’s ridiculous to habitually leave a bed unmade in a SHARED room where that is the common living and socializing space.
If the two inhabitants don’t mind, then fine. But it’s not a ridiculous expectation at all.
I hate making beds, myself. But it is ridiculous to try to pretend that it’s not a sloppy preference. It is. The times when I don’t make my bed at least passably, I AM being sloppy. At least I own it.
Sorry I disagree with you. If I know a guest might be coming, I might make the bed to make it presentable. But most kids, of course not the ones with parents on CC, have to run out quickly to classes that making their bed is the last thing on their mind.
So I don’t agree it’s common courtesy. I also don’t like that guests drop by unexpectedly, if if they do they get to see unmade bed. So what. Perhaps common courtesy to let people know that you will have guest coming.
It’s OCD when you force your roommate to do her bed. The whole idea of living in college is to experience living with different people in an environment that is not your home. There are different people from different background. Learn to deal with them and not base on some preconceived idea of what’s right or wrong. How are these bright kids are supposed to deal with more liberal ideas that are not common or familiar to them.
In a neighborhood, yes. In a college dorm, no.
People drop by in a dorm simply because they notice that your door is open when they’re on their way back from the bathroom or the dining hall. Or you eat dinner with someone from another dorm, and then you go back to one person’s room or the other. College students don’t plan their casual socializing in advance.
@DrGoogle, have you ever lived in a U.S. university dorm? Do you know what dorm life is like?
I think you are imaging more serious bed making than the rest of us. If you have a duvet or comforter making a bad takes about five seconds. It won’t make you late to class. If you’re in a room which is doubles on a hall, people often leave doors open. It definitely looks better if the bed is covered.
FWIW, I don’t always make the bed at home, even though it would take about five seconds, but I do close the bedroom door when it looks sloppy in there.
I visited my kid’s dorm and you need keys to have access. And if you live in the same dorm then seeing unmade bed is not going to shock you. It’s not Stepford Wifes neighborhood.
I came one time unexpectedly and I couldn’t tell one kid was sleeping there.
I don’t care about how long it takes to make the bed, what I’m more annoyed with the concept that someone can dictate someone’s behavior, even In making bed.
“I also don’t like that guest drop by unexpectedly, if if they do they get to see unmade bed. So what. Perhaps common courtesy to let people know that you will have guest coming.”
I don’t think you have experience in American dorm life. These rooms are simultaneously living/socializing and sleeping space, and dropping by / dropping in on the spur of the moment is the cultural norm…
We are not talking about Martha Stewart bedmaking. We’re talking about pulling a comforter up and over the whole thing.
But whatever, I wouldn’t take pride in being messy, but maybe others do.
I never claimed that I did, I rent an apartment off campus. But I noticed all those kids at my kid’s hall were pretty sloppy even to my sloppy standard. An unmade bed wouldnt shock them.
Who said anything about shocking? It’s not “shocking” to see an unmade bed.
But it’s inconsiderate to be a habitual slob in a small shared space.
Anyway, why brag about having a sloppy standard? This is standard CC-reverse-elitism. Pride in looking and dressing like crap, pride in being a slob.
Half way through the thread, and I’m still wondering what it means to “deep clean” a dorm sink? I mean, you take the cleanser+sponge or a Chlorox wipe and give the sink, counter, and faucets a bit of a scrub and, if necessary, a rinse. Done. Takes about 30 seconds, if that, especially if you have wipes on hand and give it a swipe more frequently. Is there some other ritual of sink cleaning I’ve never heard of?
I’m one of those people who takes paper towels and wipes off wet sinks and counters in public restrooms, but I am far from a neatnik. Now I feel so guilty…I should go clean the house instead of finishing the thread.
Post #128, because people are different. It’s not pride but it’s honesty.
About bed making–my dad is 93 y/o and will NOT make a bed. So sis and I re-did his room and got him a plush comforter. I explained that “bed making” with a comforter takes 5 seconds and covers a “multitude of sins”. . No need to worry about “straightening sheets” or “smoothing”. Just throw the d–m thing on and go on your way. So the next day he proudly proclaimed “I made the bed!” We laughed–no, it wasn’t up to pristine standards but was acceptable and took a whole 5 seconds.
(yes, he’s a very remarkable 93)
I’m not the neatest person, but I’d be ok with swiping the sink and throwing a comforter up on my bed. I didn’t have rugs in my dorm rooms so vacuuming was never in issue. The “deep cleaning” part I’m having a problem with is the desk and windows. Who “deep cleans” a desk and how does one even do that? THAT above all strikes me as odd and maybe a bit OCD. My own D likes things “just so” on counters and tables, etc. but even she’s been known to let her desk get out of order. And windows…goodness, unless you’re living someplace where the dust is forever blowing, I don’t think anyone anywhere needs to clean them weekly, much less “deep clean” them.
I don’t know of anyone who does sheets every single week. My dorm had 2 washers for about 120 students. If we all washed our sheets every week, no one would have ever been able to do their clothes! In the summers, I wash sheets more often than in the winter, but not weekly. The roommate is an extreme neatnik and hopefully she’ll loosen up. If not, she needs to look for new digs. Roommates can’t dictate what people do with their own desks.
^lol, and I thought 2 washers/dryers for 40 students was bad.
The students will work it out. Or not. They’re late teens, not middle-aged parents. I had friends in college who shared a room. One side was disorderly, the other was neat as a pin. No one was ill-mannered enough to insult the other. They’re friends to this day.
It is OCD-ish to think that one can demand of the roommate to “straighten everything every day.”
We are bed makers and once a week stripper/washers…but I probably didn’t in college…(did they have sheets back then)?
I also sat next to a slight odiferous person…I was thinking he probably doesn’t even realize he smells…I don’t think people realize when they or their stuff starts to smell.
…Until you start putting those Glade freshners everywhere.
Dirty sheets and unmade beds are disgusting. Not to mention that friends often come in and sit down on the bed. Who wants people sitting on the actual sheets on which they sleep? (Shudder). And sheets SMELL if they haven’t been changed. Change the darn sheets.
I can’t imagine loads of people are this slobby today, but several posters seem to think they are. Sigh.
Redpoodle, that’s an AWESOME idea to declare ones ways as “total slob” ways, and manage to get a single out of it! I’d be worried it would backfire though, and you would get stuck with a truly disgusting slob, and the resultant bug infestation.
Please don’t use the stupid fake scents to cover odors. It gives susceptible people asthma attacks.