<p>I'm not sure it is any coincidence that yesterday I began developing "the spreadsheet" for my S. Then last night I had the most horrific, terrifying, and graphicaly detailed nightmare about the boy. I'm not prone to nightmares and I can't help to think that it has something to do with my separation anxiety and obsessing about his eventually going to college.</p>
<p>I sure hope I'm not going to have nightmares at every juncture of this process! Can anyone relate?</p>
<p>I dreamed the other night that I was trying to convince my daughter not to go to the University of Finland because it is so far away. Is there even a University of Finland?
(the daughter in question is already a freshman at Cal, so I’m not even sure why it would have come up.)</p>
<p>LOL! For what it’s worth, the people in Finland always score high on the overall happiness meter!</p>
<p>However, this is not encouraging. :o)</p>
<p>I think the whole process is very very difficult, especially on mothers. We want our kids to grow up and have the very best chance at a good future that we can afford to give them. Then there is the horror that maybe we can’t afford the very best school that they were able to get into. When the agonizing decisions are finally made, they leave! </p>
<p>I haven’t had many nightmares, but I have had more than my share of sleepless nights. I didn’t really believe the empty nest stuff, until it happened to me. It’s hard, but every time my son comes home on break he’s more mature, more self assured and more independent… and that’s exactly what I wanted, isn’t it?. I’m still working through it, so no wisdom here, but I can commiserate.</p>
<p>LOL! I dreamed that I accidently dropped off my son at college with only one outfit (!) and spent the entire dream trying to get back to the campus to bring him more clothes! I just could not get back to him though. Rediculous, but the dream felt so intense and real, lol!</p>