<p>Ok I have already post something like this, however I feel that the only way to get rid of this sadness is by expressing it. It is the second semester of my sophomore year and have some acquaintances and let going to say friends. People around me say that I am a nice person however I cannot get a long with them. And the persons that I consider as a friends are very nice and we use to help each other. But they do not include me in their plans, and they use to hang out wit their friends, fact that makes more miserable. In special, I hate weekends and breaks because they remind me how lonely I am. I know the advices, join some clubs or try to be part of some extracurricular activities, however people just go to their group of friends, and I just ends alone. </p>
<p>At firsts I did not want to accept it, I felt that it was ok to not have a social life because i have more time to study. But things changed when I meet girl who became a good friend, she is very wonderful, and I really liked everything of her, we even have the same preferences, and the same view of life. She was the only one who included me in her plans, she even encouraged me to be part of a club that she is involved, and it was wonderful. And at some point I felt that I love her, however she is very social and she use to hang out with different people, and I feel that I would be annoying if I am with her in every day of the week. Sometimes I was thinking invite her to a date, but then I realize that I am kind a creepy person, not in the sense that I am weird, but in the sense that I am not social, and that she is the only one that I use to hang out. And he fact that I love her, and that I do not have friends to hang out makes my situation to look dull. And the worst thing is that she is going to graduate this May, and I cannot tell her what she means to me. She is the most closest friend that I have in college and thinking that after May I will not see her makes me cry T_T. But that is not the only bad news, my sophomore year is even harder than my first year, During my first semester I really struggled and I succeed, but now things are getting worse because I failed a test and now I am in panic, I now it is not the end of the world, however I am so frustrated due to my situation. </p>
<p>Sorry guys if the text is large however I think that it is the only way to give a temporary relief to my sadness. So what do you think, what advice do you have to me? I will really appreciate your opinions</p>
<p>My daughter is in a very similar situation. The promise of college being a time of bonding and fun when not working or in class, just seems lonely to her. As an adult in the working world, I can tell you there are times in your life where everything lines up, social, family, friends, work, school, etc, and there are times when something is good, and other things are very bad. We aren’t all carbon-copy Brady Bunch type people. Life isn’t as it appears in TV sitcoms. That doesn’t mean that we can’t have good times too. Focus on the little things that can make each day good for you. When you’re overworked, treat yourself to a nice meal, or a movie (it’s fine to go the movies alone. often it’s better! shhhssh!) Focus on the positive and realize that this is a temporary drought, not a lifetime sentence of feeling this way.</p>
<p>Making friends is hard. Most of the friends you had in high school were with you through much of your life. It’s not easy for a person who’d rather have more than casual friendships (as my daughter is). I suggest you look towards what makes you happy. Pursue the interests, not the people, and eventually the people will come around.</p>
<p>I sincerely hope for you that you feel better, as I do my daughter as well. We aren’t all textbook cases, everybody is different and this will work out.</p>
<p>THank you fenderjazz for your support, i will try to pursue my interests.</p>
<p>Aw that’s cute! I mean the loving her part. ^^ This is a very good pure emotion in friendship (though it might not seem like it to you).
When I was in high school I used to have intense friendship like this with my best friend (one person) since I didn’t have any other friends. I also felt like I love her. I grew very attached and so when she did stuff that annoyed me I was super hurt and took things so personally as if I was in a relationship with her, just like you might take you and that girl parting ways personally.
It’s the same as love, it doesn’t matter what gender, but you can attached to a person so you will feel heartbreak just the same.
Liking someone, friend or crush, is a very good thing. It means you have interest in people and interest in developing a relationship, as well as caring for another person.</p>
<p>But, you cannot get obsessed. This comes from repressing your caring for your friend and not taking action and making better friends with her.
You should not be shy! Ask her to hang out with you! She might be flattered and love the opportunity. Or suggest you study together, or eat after classes together at a nearby eatery/cafeteria. Then you can chat. Ask her about what she likes! People love to talk talk about themselves, and it is a good trick to use to make friends. Just enjoy the rest of the semester and try to hang out a bit so you don’t have regrets!</p>
<p>I think, looking back at all the friends who have left me, “broken up”, parted ways, grew distant, etc…I do not regret them a single bit 
I am so happy I had those friendships actually.
It may feel sad at first, but just keep talking to other people and you will make new friends. Open up to people and they will open up to you!
Let yourself talk freely like you would to your family and just be confident! You can make a lot of friends in the future, but it starts with just a smile! ^_^</p>
<p>I agree with the poster that suggested that you get more involved in those things that interest you. The more that you are focused on your particular avenues of life, the more that you become an interesting person. It might sound funny, but this is the same type of advice that I give to girlfriends that are looking for a guy to date. If you are a person with hobbies and interests and you spend time on those things it will give your persona more depth. It is when you stop looking for a friend or a significant other that someone will drop into your lap.</p>
<p>I would recommend that you have fun with your good friend and enjoy the company as much as you can before she leaves. Don’t worry about her being gone but accept that it will happen. Maybe by hanging out with her more you will become friends with more people from her circle of acquaintances.</p>
<p>You might also want to put yourself out there more with the people that you mentioned that you are friendly with but that don’t include you in their plans. This lack of inclusion could simply be from them just not thinking about it, not from them not wanting you around. Why not ask one of them what they are up to the upcoming weekend and you might get an invite. You could always say that whatever is going on sounds interesting, and do they mind if you tag along.</p>