<p>I'm in a tough major (engineering), and I find it difficult to get out there and date because I'm either working on schoolwork or on a project.
I hang out with friends and drink/party, but it's not the same as having a significant other. Likewise, I don't want the commitment, but going out and making out with randoms just isn't the same.
Any tips in terms of dating and balancing schoolwork? Is waiting until grad school the best option? I've just been feeling a bit down about the topic lately.
Thank you!</p>
<p>Don’t feel too pressured about the issue. If you’re not ready for a commitment, then don’t look for a significant other.</p>
<p>It seems like if you go out actively hunting for a significant other, you’ll either end up with someone lame or don’t get anyone at all. Once you stop searching, you end up with someone fantastic. So don’t sweat it.</p>
<p>Much like in the “real world,” you basically have to look like Brad Pitt or be an athlete or have a big fat trust fund available to get anywhere with women.</p>
<p>^ Haha, I’m a girl. That was rather presumptuous.
But I don’t think I look like the equivalent of Brad Pitt for women (Angelina Jolie?), however.</p>
<p>Maybe an FB would be what you’re looking for? No commitment, but it’s not random either.</p>
<p>Yes it was, my apologies. And even if you don’t, that’s fine. Women have it much easier in terms of finding a significant other.</p>
<p>I have a similar question. I’ve never dated before but definitely want to throughout college. I’m pretty shy also. Should I just flirt a lot and be kind of aggressive so I can get some dating experience? Or should I act normal and risk never finding a wife?</p>
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<p>Yes.</p>
<p>Never live in the past but always learn from it.</p>
<p>Sharpie, just find a guy thats low maintenance, shouldnt be to hard.</p>
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<p>Engineering isn’t that much work. Treat your school & schoolwork like a 9-5 (or 9-7 or whatever) job and don’t do everything at the last minute, and I bet you’ll be able to find free time for leisure.</p>
<p>^ I mean, additionally, I work in a lab outside of my coursework. So that takes up 10-16 hrs of my week. I’m basically working with a rigorous schedule, and it’s only summer :/</p>
<p>If time is a problem try internet dating - weed out the creeps before you even meet em’.</p>
<p>Just relax and it’ll happen. Don’t try to hard, but just try to flirt a bit and feel out situations. Most couples I’ve seen have come from the same group of friends- despite the so-called dreaded “friend zone”.</p>
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<p>You’ll be working at least as hard in grad school, so you’ll have the same problem…</p>
<p>Relax and be open. You already hang out and do social things, and that doubles your chances of meeting someone. (Seriously, I meet engineering students who play videogames in their dorms all day and wonder why they don’t have a girlfriend.) I wouldn’t worry. You’ll meet a guy in due time.</p>
<p>If you want a relationship, you gotta work for it. I’m tired of people telling others to be patient and wait and the one will come. Ofcourse that might happen, but if you would have taken action, you would have had a partner that was better than “the one”. Just like if you want an A in a class, you gotta put time into it! And in our generation, both sexes should put in work so make the first move. And there are people everwhere so there is no excuse no matter who you are or how busy you may be. Where there are people, there are new dating opportunities! This book has helped me a lot and probably will help you or anyone else having trouble with dating! </p>
<p>It’s called “always talk to strangers” </p>
<p><a href=“http://www.4shared.com/document/3dOI6PJz/David-Wygant-Always-Talk-to-St.htm[/url]”>http://www.4shared.com/document/3dOI6PJz/David-Wygant-Always-Talk-to-St.htm</a></p>
<p>Meh I’ve heard both sides of that argument. The camp that compares it to looking for a job and the camp that compares it to looking for your keys. You only find a job if you go and look for it and look hard. You usually find your keys once you stop looking and realize they were right in front of you the whole time. Both sound like BS.</p>
<p>So your saying that me wanting to become a doctor, I should just become a couch potato and wait for it to happen? </p>
<p>And what feels better at the end, you working your Ass of and getting something or something you are given with no effort?</p>
<p>I think the fallacy of the argument is in comparing something like a relationship between two human beings to finding a job.</p>
<p>Let me ask you: would you rather be in a relationship with someone who treats dating like job hunting and dates like a job interview? Or with someone you just happened to meet and before you knew it you were both really into each other? </p>
<p>Obviously if you stay in your room all day then you won’t find love. If you go out, have fun, make friends, meet new people, then maybe you’ll suddenly meet a person who strikes you differently than most people. And she feels the same about you. You hit it off, decide to ask her out, and voila. It’s basically the difference between it happening “organically” for want of a better word and trying so hard that you come off as desperate.</p>
<p>e: As for that second question, I’d rather bump into the love of my life at Starbucks today than “work my ass off” and possibly come out empty-handed (or should I say hearted?).</p>