<p>My boyfriend is going into the Marines and for boot camp he will be deployed in North Carolina. I live in New York but I've given going to college in that area some thought.</p>
<p>Anyone have any ideas on good education schools? I want to major in Special Education.</p>
<p>My overall GPA is probably around a 92-96. I also need a fairly cheap school since well.. things are tough.</p>
<p>NEVER EVER GO TO SCHOOL TO FOLLOW A BOYFRIEND. REPEAT. DO NOT GO TO SCHOOL TO FOLLOW A BOYFRIEND.</p>
<p>Schools in NC will treat you out of state. Its expensive. Stay where you are. He may be deployed overseas anyway, immediately after boot. And you would be stuck in an area you don’t know. </p>
<p>And DONT marry him…the old join the military and get hitched routine…that ALWAYS ends in disaster.</p>
<p>FINISH college before you get married. Repeat after me: FINISH college before getting married. DO NOT FOLLOW HIM TO NORTH CAROLINA.</p>
<p>Stay home, go to school. If he is in your face about this, he is trying to control you. DONT DO IT.</p>
<p>Your boyfriend may be stationed in North Carolina after Basic training but like every member of the military is subject to be deployed overseas at any time. Knowing that, would you still want to be in NC for school? I am not trying to discourage you from going to school in NC, but I think you should know what could happen. Deployments are difficult and having family support is beneficial. There are many fine schools in NC but OOS tuition is not cheap. Best of luck to you.</p>
<p>What ghostbuster says.</p>
<p>Exactly what ghostbuster says.</p>
<p>As a lifelong army brat I have to disagree with what others have said here. Don’t have time to elaborate right now but will later.</p>
<p>Assume your bf leaves NC after boot camp. Would you still want to be there? Alone? No family and no bf nearby?</p>
<p>If you would, then one of the smaller, rural, less prestigious campuses of UNC would probably be the cheapest. You might even get a small merit (academic) scholarship if your HS transcript and SAT/ACT are really excellent. Start searching here: [Our</a> 17 Institutions](<a href=“http://www.northcarolina.edu/campus_profiles/index.php]Our”>http://www.northcarolina.edu/campus_profiles/index.php)</p>
<p>But, having said that, I agree with the majority of the posters here. Don’t follow your bf to boot camp. Instead, let him come home to you.</p>
<p>Cuse: its nothing against the military. I have the utmost respect for those who serve our nation in uniform, past, present and future. </p>
<p>This is about a young lady who is apparently in love and thinks following her beau to NC and going to school there will keep them in love forever. </p>
<p>I have more experience with this subject than you can possibly imagine. Its always a disaster. </p>
<p>Getting hitched at a young age (which is precisely what boys who come out of boot want to do…to put a golden ring on her finger and lock her up…) is never a good idea. Finishing college is the best move one can make for oneself. </p>
<p>Following a boyfriend to college is a mistake, whether that is because of the military or any other reason. Kids this age think they have found “the one” and often its a nightmare about to unfold. Nothing wrong with puppy love. Been there, done that. But it is only puppy love and you have to face reality.</p>
<p>Going to college is a challenge on the best of days. </p>
<p>Like DougBetsy said, let him come home to you “if its meant to be”. The likelihood a marine stays stateside is very, very slim. MOST will go into combat…very, very soon. Or sent to the DMZ in Korea, or over to Okinawa. Or Gitmo. On and on.</p>
<p>She needs to put his picture in a locket and kiss him goodbye, write him letters and send him email messages of support. But otherwise get on with her life and focus on her classes.</p>
<p>Ghostbuster, I appreciate your words of wisdom. He hasn’t even brought up that idea though… I just like the area. You’re right though that if we were meant to be… he’ll come back. Thank you.</p>
<p>If he’s stationed in NC, he’ll likely be there for at least 3 or 4 years. Note that going to bootcamp somewhere and being stationed somewhere are two entirely different things. If he’s stationed at Lejune, for example, and you go to UNC-Wilmington, you all could reasonably still live together as he would get a basic housing allowance that you could apply to your rent.</p>
<p>It just depends on if you see yourself with your boyfriend for more than just the short term. If you plan on getting married, I would go with him to NC if he is indeed stationed there. If you don’t plan on doing so, don’t follow him around. You need to just decide what your long-term plan is. I know that is daunting, but so is deciding where it is that you need to go to college.</p>
<p>For the record, I lived on military bases for the first 17 years of my life and saw plenty of couples that had been together for the long haul, moved around the world, and enjoyed each other on the way. Heck, that’s what my parents did. My father didn’t join the military until he was in med school, but my mother hadn’t finished college yet and ended up going to school closest to where he was stationed.</p>
<p>vege: You are welcome. Glad to hear that you are only probing and its not a pressure cooker.</p>
<p>cuse: yes, it can and does work for some. The cases where it works is normally commissioned officers which is a kettle of different fish than 18 year old buck privates out of boot, scared of losing a high school sweety before he goes overseas. </p>
<p>In fact, in boot camp they instruct kids NOT to get hitched…but many ignore that advice and do it…and its disastrous.</p>
<p>Finally, kids going to college are much better off experiencing the joys of college without being hooked up to someone far away. That goes for kids who attempt long distance relationships at different schools. </p>
<p>If its meant to be, then it will be…but its far better not to get too attached to someone at this age. Heck, kids at the same colleges often dont last more than a semester anyway…before they blow up with some drama. LOL.</p>
<p>Soldiers and sailors going overseas want to lock up their sweetie back home…something to hold onto. I get that. But they also need to understand that it was them who decided to enlist, not their sweetie…and we all make choices and choices have consequences. </p>
<p>For the record I often advise high school seniors not to get too attached to anyone in high school…its far better to go off to college unattached and single. You will meet people. Its part of growing up</p>
<p>The person you love at age 18 is often a different person who you might love at age 25. We all change and grow. Keep the sweet memories. Love them for who they are, but let them go.</p>
<p>Good luck and God Bless.</p>
<p>@vegetarian27 Ahh…I would certainly ask you to follow what ghostbuster is saying…</p>
<p>@vege Can you post your stats?</p>
<p>Thank you all :)</p>
<p>My stats? On my profile?</p>
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<p>The good news is that public higher ed in NC is one of the nation’s bargains. The bad news is that it won’t come close to being as good a deal as your own state’s tuition. For instance, out of state tuition, room and board at N.C. State runs $27,228. Elon University, a private NC school, is often cited as a national top bargain at $35,475. But as a NY resident, you can go to Binghamton University - perhaps among the top 100 universities in the U.S. - for only $18,126.</p>
<p>Yeah, my sister goes to Binghamton. Sad thing is… 18,000 is still way out of my budget. Also, Binghamton is more of a math/science school. </p>
<p>Thank you all for your help! But I think I’m going to have to end up commuting somewhere just because it’s cheaper. Public schools nearby are only about 5,000 without any of my scholarships or anything. I’d rather not be in debt for the rest of my life.</p>
<p>Good decision. While living on campus can be fun, it is also noisy and full of dorm drama. At the end of the day, its all about the education and diploma for getting a job. Meanwhile you can see how you and your boyfriend do after he is in the Marines…and you can focus on your books, and see where they send him. Sec. Gates sent another 1,400 Marines from Lejeune to Afghanistan this am. Its ominous. This is not a war they want to lose or walk away from. </p>
<p>Keep your head. Peace.</p>
<p>Even if the relationship works out, you’ll be doing plenty of long distance loving with your military guy. Might as well get used to that now. Pick a SUNY school, and hope for world peace.</p>
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<p>Nope. Absolutely not. At the end of the day, that only gets you an entry-level job. Growing into as broadly competent and well-rounded a person as you can possibly be is what builds a career and a life, and that’s best facilitated by being as fully engaged in campus life as you can be. Living on campus is perhaps the biggest step towards that kind of engagement.</p>
<p>I agree with ghostbuster. please don’t have your own life</p>