Not happy with college social life

Student Lounge College Life
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<p>I know that this has been posted many times on this website, but I am over 2 months into my freshman year of college and still have no good friends that I can hang out with all the time. I have one friend on my floor that I talk to and get meals with sometimes, but she is shy/boring/never wants to go out. The other people on my floor are nice, but they are just acquaintances, I don't connect with them/have common interests. I'm not an antisocial person, I talk to people in my classes, but mostly just small talk and homework questions. I also joined a sorority, purely to meet new people, but I still don't think I've found where I belong yet. I do think about transferring, because I feel so lonely here, but the fact is there's nothing wrong with the school itself. It has a great program for my major and plenty of things to get involved in, I just don't know where to start. Well, that's my life story.</p>

<p>But I also have a question. So my roommate is really nice, but she really only sees us as acquaintances. She never has asked me to do anything with her or hang out, we just see each other in our room. She has her own friends (some I have met) and is involved in a bunch of things on campus that I like, would it be weird if I asked if I could join some of the clubs she's in? I wasn't able to go to the activities fair at the beginning of the year, so i never really found out about what clubs/activities are available on campus. I'm just worried she doesn't like me because she never asks me to join her and her friends, even when it's obvious I'm not doing anything.</p>

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<p>Depending on which school you’re at, there is a good chance there is a listing of clubs and activities at your school online somewhere. Check their website, or do a google search for “student organizations at ___________”. Just start going to meetings or activities for student groups until you find the ones that you like. I went to a bunch of different activities for different organizations and there were a lot that I didn’t like, but I found a few I really enjoyed and stuck with them. If you put in a lot of time and effort into being involved on campus, you will find friends in organizations and student groups.</p>

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<p>Have you tried asking your roommate to do something? She may be very busy but it’s entirely possible that she just doesn’t think your interested or that you don’t consider her your friend because you never invite her to do anything. Roommates don’t automatically have to be best friends or do things together, but there’s no reason you can’t say, “Hey, that club sounds really cool. When do they meet?” Things are only as awkward as you make them.</p>