<p>I go to college out of state(25 hours away from home), (a top 30 university) and I was wondering when do most college kids start making friends. I have been in orientation for three days, and I don't really know anyone. Everyone else seems to have friends everywhere. My roommate and some people on my floor are cool, and I hang out with them sometimes(so far only 2 to three times, because its only my 3rd day of college).It seems that everyone else is forming connections and making friends. Also I go to a mid size school (has 1600 freshmans).So far I have gone to eat six times to my schools cafertia(and I have eaten alone for 2 times), other times I just went to eat with my roommate and some kids in my hall.Is it normal for college kids to eat alone in the cafertia because everyone has different schedules (different classes so different schedules).I just don't want to be a loser who ends up not making any friends in college(friends are your support system in college because most everyone families are really far away).I am already thinking about transferring to another school (because the school is ranked higher, its only 4 hours away from home, and I have a lot of friends from high school who went there).</p>
<p>Sad thing is I actually want classes to start, so I can stop sitting around my dorm bored out of my mind lol....</p>
<p>Join a group of people for a meal and get together to do some activities. The point is to meet people. You won’t necessarily become friends with them a few weeks down the road, and after a while you’ll know who you want to eat with and talk to for the time being. In the first few days of college, everyone’s just getting to know each other, like the people in their dorms or orientation groups, if any, or they talk to anyone they see. Definitely be approachable, and eventually you’ll find out which of those people you don’t want to talk to anymore and who you want to be friends with. Friends change, anyway. At first I thought I would be really good friends with one person, but now I’m not so sure if he’s that good of a friend. So it helps to know a good number of people so that if some people no longer stay as friends, you have others to hang around with.</p>
<p>I also wouldn’t worry about it too much. I tend to make a lot of “friends” as acquaintances, but it takes a while for me to find out who the real, close friends are.</p>
<p>you will change “cliques” a lot of times at the start and throughout your college life. theres no need to rush. just be friendly to everyone and the friends will come. i mean thats how friends were made when you were in elementary school. go to same class or have something in common</p>
<p>It’s your third day! That’s FINE! Give it a few weeks. At my orientation session I noticed a lot of people grouping together and felt really left out, but then as it turns out once orientation ended most of them made friends elsewhere and never talked to those kids again anyway. You will eat in the cafeteria alone a lot, most everyone does. Everyone has different schedules, and chances are once classes start you won’t be taking your meals at the same time anymore either. This is a chance for you to practice being independent-- in college you DO go do things by yourself a lot, it’s not like high school where you can be joined at the hip with a buddy wherever you go. You will make friends and hang out with them often and have a great time, but it won’t happen overnight, and you are likely going to have to adjust to being more independent than you are used to. That’s totally normal.</p>
<p>Relax! Join some clubs and talk to people in them to make friends. Remember people like people who are interested in them. To alleviate boredom before classes start, go explore campus and the surrounding area. Check out where your classes meet and get a feel for the area. Give it a little more time and work before you decide to transfer.</p>
<p>In other posts you said you went to a State school last year. Weren’t you able to make friends there? If so, things will go just as smoothly here at your new college.</p>
<p>^ Most of my friends at my state school were my friends from K-12, here I don’ know anyone</p>
<p>Looking around my school’s cafeteria, I don’t see anyone eating alone, maybe that will change once classes start and everyone’s schedules are different.</p>
<p>Leave your door open when you’re inside! it’ll help you make friends, i swear. if people have their dorm doors open, it’s an open invitation, so pop your head in and say hi! even if you think it’s weird, just do it!</p>
<p>This is just something you’re going to have to deal with. You’ll make friends eventually but don’t expect instant BFF connections with everyone you meet.</p>
<p>When you get a job, you’re not likely going to know everybody there when you first start either. You can’t just pack up and leave. You have to deal.</p>
<p>I didn’t know anybody either! my school is the same size too, and a lot of people are from the same areas, know each other, and have friend groups already, but there are also a lot of people who are in the same position as me. I’ve definitely met a lot of people and exchanged quite a few numbers, but it takes time to actually find friends to hang out with. Just give it time. Talk to people, find out what’s going on, and eventually it will happen. It already has started to for me :)</p>
<p>Definitely join some clubs and throw yourself out there. Get involved and just present yourself outwardly towards people. You have to make the effort to get to know people. People are friendly in college and chances are, there are some who also don’t know anybody as well so you’re not the only one. As long as you put yourself out there and are outgoing and friendly, you will make a lot of new friends. Give it some time and you’ll be fine.</p>
<p>I also feel like a loner sitting at meals by myself.Most of my peers are eating in groups and are already cliquing, classes have started and I talk to the people in my classes and on my floor but thats about it.Its now the 6th day of college, and I have eaten a lot of meals alone.Is that normal? I don’t want to be a loner for the whole year lol.I am worried that I will probably end up eating alone all year.I plan on joining a couple of clubs as well as my floor’s flag football team(intramural sports).but eating alone makes me feel like a loser rofl.</p>
<p>I am also taking a ****load of higher level classes(triple Chemistry/Phyiscs/English Major) which means sitting in the libarary for a 5-6 of hours each day studying. This only contributes to me acting like a loner.</p>
<p>Find some one who is doing what you are doing and studying a lot in your classes, aproach them and start going to the libary togethor. Maybe they have a group of friends you can meet and eventually join.</p>
<p>I can relate. I’ve been pretty much alone for the 4 years i was in college By the time of my graduation all my close friends has either changed majors or moved and being the only Asian in most of my classes didn’t help either. </p>
<p>My advice to you is, try to occupy yourself with a hobby, i mainly focused on Gym/jogged/running you’ll be surprsed how good it makes you feel. I also put the rest of my attention more on my acadamics. That is what college is to GET A GOOD EDUCATION so you can graduate asap (you don’t want to be stuck in college complaing do you?) </p>
<p>And do not worry, you have your family you can lean on when you are lonely, or feeling down. This is a life experiment, a way to help you be INDEPENDENT in your future. </p>