So I about halfway through the second semester of my first year in college. I havent made too many friends, more just acquaintances. The guy who I hung out with most of the first semester turned out to be a real jerk, and is probably getting kicked out of school anyway, since he just got charged with a felony. I like my roommate a lot, but he is on the baseball team, and is never around much. I have made a group of friends, but I dont like hanging out with them. All they like to do is get high and sit around listening to music. Seriously, us hanging out consists of all of us sitting in a circle, with music playing. When I suggest doing something else, nobody ever wants to. We spend all our time sitting around, nobody talking or anything. Even when we go out to eat or something, the conversations are very dull and feel forced. Dont get me wrong, they are all cool guys, I just really dont enjoy hanging out with them and doing nothing.
This just really makes me miss my friends from home. My friend group from home was great, and I feel I will never be able to replace them. We had fun no matter what we were doing. Up here, that isnt the case. All my friends from home are having a great time at college and making new friends, but im not.
Is it normal to not make you college friends your freshman year? I have plans to live with some of the guys in the group im in right now next year, but I feel like thats just going to make making new friends even harder, since everybody will be living with their friend group.
I am in a similar situation, and several of my friends from high school (at my college and elsewhere) seem to feel the same way. I have only some acquaintances who know my name; HS friend A has one good friend and two lesser friends; HS friend B regards everyone as acquaintances; HS friend C has a couple friends but they seem to annoy him.
I know of a grand total of ONE high school friend of mine who is happy and thriving at her college.
So I’m going to guess that it’s perfectly normal to have a long adjustment period and to have trouble making friends.
Hi, I’m also a freshman and I was so MISERABLY lonely last semester that my loneliness put me in an almost depression-like state. In fact, I was planning on transferring next semester, but this semester, I’ve met more students/faculty in my major, and we’ve been collaborating on homework (as allowed), and I think I’m finally starting to find my niche, which I could not even imagine doing last semester.
So you might want to CONSIDER transferring, just because it’s nice to have a backup plan and different colleges have different social atmospheres. But at the same time, be open-minded about your current school. I’m sure it will get better when you take classes specifically for your major and meet more like-minded people.
It’s an awful situation, though. My sympathies, and best of luck!
