<p>As a current bs parent I dont envy tonight, tomorrow or next few days that follow. It was a tough and exciting time.</p>
<p>As the posting were being listed it hurt me every time I saw a post that said "REJECTED". I refused to use the term and did not allow my d to use it either. </p>
<p>I can admit it hurt when a top choice of my d informed us that she was not selected; it hurt my d more. At the time I didnt understand it, but with review it wasnt a good fit (hindsight!).</p>
<p>I hope that parents and students refrain from the use of rejection. Try to trust the process.</p>
<p>I wish all the parents and students well, whatever the outcome.</p>
<p>Sugarcoating or use of semantics cannot hide the competitiveness of life. For every opportunity, there are many able aspirants. Someone has to make the decision. I really empathize with AO’s who have the fate of so many people in their hands. I have been in similar circumstances where I held the purse strings that determined success or failure of businesses. It is not fun and it is not a reflection on an individual’s accomplishments, as all school letters will state. I hope everyone gets one’s wish tomorrow. For those who do not, there will be more opportunities in the future.</p>
<p>Personally, I feel that ds did a really good job of presenting himself, with his own unique strengths and weaknesses, to the different schools. If they do not accept him, I will chalk it up to a poor fit, and not consider that he didn’t measure up. He probably would not have been happy at school XYZ if they do not select him. </p>
<p>In other words, if the applicant has been able to present a sincere picture of who s/he is, then there is no reason to feel regret. Does this sound reasonable?</p>
<p>Personally, I feel that ds did a really good job of presenting himself, with his own unique strengths and weaknesses, to the different schools. If they do not accept him, I will chalk it up to a poor fit, and not consider that he didn’t measure up. He probably would not have been happy at school XYZ if they do not select him. </p>
<p>In other words, if the applicant has been able to present a sincere and accurate picture of who s/he is, then there is no reason to feel regret. Does this sound reasonable?</p>
<p>Rellielou-yes very reasonable.</p>
<p>I hope more parents/kids take on that point of view. Yes I think sugarcoating is not a good thing, but love and support at a tough time is the position that I think parents should consider. </p>
<p>These kids are still kids, and yes we should be honest. Yes some kids didnt measure up but to look honestly, there are just not enough spaces for all the kids that do measure up and do well at a bs.</p>
<p>Not being selected is different from being rejected. </p>
<p>IMHO.</p>
<p>Good Luck :-)</p>