Not wanting to socialize on weeknights

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I started college a little over a month ago

I am friends with my roommate (and acquaintances with people around me) and we often go get dinner on weeknights and sometimes other girls will join us but my roommate has other friends that she goes out and does things with while I sit in the dorm or go to the gym.

I am the type that likes to go to bed early, back at home I would be home from my sports at about 5:30/6, eat dinner, do homework, get ready for bed and be in bed by 10 but here at college people are always having people over to their dorms at that time so i always here people laughing and socializing outside my dorm and it makes me feel alone.

I am most likely transferring in the spring to my original top choice school so i keep telling myself this situation is temporary and once i get to my new school (which i already know people at) that everything will get better.

I have tried to join things but my school is so small and most of the clubs aren’t really active.

I dont really know what to do, I don’t hate the people around me but they just aren’t my type of people so whenever we hangout I’m kinda just there, i also feel like I’m just tagging along with my roommate.

has anyone shared a similar experience? is it really that weird to want to stay in on weekdays and go to bed early (i usually go out on weekends and i have an early class everyday)? it makes me feel like a loser that I’m not out socializing with people everyday

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Just be yourself and be true to yourself. If someone asked you if you thought they were a loser because they like to stay in and study on weeknights and get to bed at a reasonable hour would you really think they are a loser? I hope not. Relationships and your choices about them aren’t black an white or all or nothing.

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My daughter also goes to bed early during the week- by 10:00-11:00 on most week nights she is sleeping. It has never been a problem. She will attend club meetings on weekday evenings but will not participate in any other type of social activity.

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I feel the same. I attend club meetings on certain evenings, but other than that, I hang in my room and go to bed at a decent hour during the week.

I know a lot of people who do this. As we get deeper in the semester, the work is starting to pile on, so many people are not socializing as much during the week as they were earlier in the semester.

I honestly wouldn’t worry about it. You don’t have to be socializing every night. I save my socializing for the weekend.