<p>I have been right in there with lots of you, worrying about move-in day, about whether my daughter would get along with her roommate, make friends, be homesick, handle day-to-day practicalities. And we've been blessed -- she's doing great, loves her new friends, is handling the boyfriend separation, and taking care of minor hassles with things like ordering textbooks. Last night, though, there was a new edge to her voice: "I'm fine, just really tired, and I've REALLY got a lot of work." Aha! yes! College courses, the reason we're there.</p>
<p>For some of your superstar kids, maybe this isn't a concern. For my extremely bright but slightly disorganized procrastinator, here's where my real worries start. </p>
<p>Holding my breath, trying to let HER figure it out. </p>
<p>Wishing everybody's kids well with their studies.</p>
<p>I’m right there with you, dbwes. I’m trying mightily to remember my mantra: The ball’s in *his]/i] court now. So far he sounds happy and busy. He followed through on plans to get involved in a particular activity and seems very excited about it. I’m trying not to ask too many questions, but just let him take the lead (though I have a zillion questions, of course). So duct tape is still appropriate, as is breath-holding.</p>
<p>My D had to tackle add/drop today and was getting a bit of the run around. She called me to vent but handled everything herself and just let me know it’s all taken care of. Whew!</p>
<p>I’m SO there with my two. D is a college junior and has the routine down pretty well now, plus she’s filling out study abroad forms for Sweden for this spring. S is a college freshman at the same school and is loving it there, having TOO much fun. Saw them both Monday, and I could tell that S is just starting to realize that he’s going to have to balance homework and all of the “fun” he is having. . . Can’t wait to watch him grow and learn, which he will.</p>
<p>D hasn’t communicated much, but has reflected academic insecurities when she has: worrying because a large lecture course grades on a curve with no more than 15% A’s and 34% B’s, saying that some fellow students in an honors discussion session for another course are “somewhat pretentious because they are in honors so they are smart and they know it.” Uh, she’s smart and in honors, too; hopefully she’ll soon get over being intimidated.</p>