Ok so I never dated before. I'm a little worried that I won't find a bf in college.

<p>What about women?</p>

<p>I don’t think you should be that worried about trying to find a boyfriend.</p>

<p>College is a time where people are supposed to experiment because people have a lot more time and personal freedom than what they had in highschool. You can stay out later, you can try whatever you want, and you should have a good time. I don’t think you should be coming into college with the idea of always looking out for a boyfriend. I think you should just relax a little, and since it sounds like you don’t have as much experience in general (not saying it’s a bad thing). I think the best thing to do is to go to parties, or different events and functions, and just try to meet people, and see where it goes.</p>

<p>It’s hard to give advice to people without really knowing who they are as a person, so it’s going to be tough to generalize. Because you say that you haven’t really had a crush, it leads me to believe that possibly you don’t have the best time socially, possibly with people of the other sex. Now I could be totally wrong, but the best advice for not only you, but for everyone going to college is just to go out and meet people, and possibly you can find a person you might be interested in dating.</p>

<p>Now be careful, because college seems to accelerate relationships, so you should take it slow. The reason why I say this is because you could spend a lot more time with people in general, than you could have in highschool, and just being in their presence for a constant period of time will accelerate the relationship. And because you haven’t had a boyfriend before, or even a crush as you stated, you will want to take things slow.</p>

<p>So long story short, just go out, have fun, meet people, and don’t look at every boy as a possible boyfriend. And if you see someone that could be a possible boyfriend, don’t be afraid to try and hang out with that guy more. Just get to know him and don’t rush into things.</p>

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<p>none who I know. Every guy I know is pretty honest about wanting a hot chick and not caring as much about anything else.</p>

<p>I know it’s tough. I think it’s possible that you will just be in relationships later (sometimes you just don’t find high school guys that attractive). Maybe you could also check out AVEN and see if you relate to asexuality? I don’t think you should be super-concerned at 18, though. A lot of people don’t have relationships in high school.</p>

<p>Though I definitely had a few crushes in HS, I found the guys in college to be much more attractive (btw, attractive relates to personality/overall appeal, not just appearance). I never dated in HS, but I had an awesome boyfriend for most of the 2nd semester of my freshman year. Its in part a maturity thing, but also that I was suddenly surrounded by a lot more people with the basic qualities that I like, so there was a higher likelihood that they would have the more specific things too. I think this is true for just about anyone in college - if you go to a big school this will happen simply because of the overwhelming numbers, but if you go to a small school it will probably still be true because people chose that small school because they have similar preferences to you. </p>

<p>But just like akaCondi and others said, even though everyone else is freaking out over relationships, its really best not to be interested in someone. Being in a relationship or pining away for one distracts everyone at least a little bit, and for some people it can seriously mess up their priorities. If you’re looking for a long term relationship, college is definitely better than high school, but its still not necessarily the best environment (though it certainly is the best place to meet people). Imagine planning a wedding and interviewing for a job at the same time - ugh.</p>

<p>and… I endorse jchen’s post…good stuff, but I don’t want to repeat it any more than I may already have.</p>

<p>YOU’RE NOT ALONE!</p>

<p>I never had a crush on anyone and I’m 18 as well…well I never had a crush on a guy. </p>

<p>I don’t know how you can’t have had a crush on anyone in your last 10 years. I mean I’ve had crushes on my teachers (■■■■)…everybody! </p>

<p>Are your insides malfunctioning?</p>

<p>let’s get some pics.
I find it hard to believe that any girl hasn’t at least been on a date before getting to college.</p>

<p>^^^ Seriously? There are quite a few girls have not dated until college. You definitely don’t have a realistic idea of what the dating scene is like in college. Not every girl has a rap sheet of 10+ guys by the time college starts. I’m exactly in akaCondi’s situation - I have never dated before (although I have had a few crushes), as a soon-to-be sophomore in college. Sure, I’ve been asked out…truth be told, I consider myself rather nice-looking…I’m just simply not interested in pursuing guys and am perfectly happy being independent at least at my stage in life right now.</p>

<p>lol I wonder why with a name like that.</p>

<p>I second what falalalena is saying. There are plenty of girls who didn’t date in high school. I for one never had an actual “boyfriend” but I was hurt early on (sophomore year, which is the first year in my high school. Freshmen go to a different school) by a guy who never asked me to be his girlfriend at a time when I could say yes. After that I had no interest in dating until maybe senior year, and then I was so focused on getting a guy I could trust that I was never really attracted to anybody to the point I would date them. So it’s very possible to never have dated in high school.
At the OP- Do you find any guys attractive? Because it’s possible you’re gay, or even asexual. But if you do find some guys attractive, that’s probably not it. Because of your name, I’m going to suggest what someone else said and what I will name “Edward Cullen Syndrome”. You’re setting impossible standards for guys or looking for the type of guy that’s probably bad for you anyway. But it’s very possible things will turn around in college, when you’re surrounded by people who were at least similar enough to you to choose the same school.</p>

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what I will name “Edward Cullen Syndrome”

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Sorry, that’s already taken on YKTTW:

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<p>Maybe “Bella Swan Syndrome”? :/</p>

<p>My bad.
Bella Swan Syndrome does make more sense actually, but I can never remember her name.</p>

<p>"This board seriously attracts the socially awkward. "</p>

<p>This.</p>

<p>That Twilight movie left me scratching my head and ****ed that I wasted a DVD burning it.</p>

<p>Why were they playing super baseball? And why did Nikki Reed keep glaring at everyone?</p>

<p>They really should have provided a follow-up manual to fill in the holes in that movie. I can’t believe they’re actually making a second one.</p>

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That Twilight movie left me scratching my head and ****ed that I wasted a DVD burning it.

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Yeah, my little sister wouldn’t stop whining until I torrented the 1080p Blu-ray rip for her. Worst use of 9 GB of ratio ever.</p>

<p>ginab951-
yes, I am absolutely sure I’m not gay or asexual! I don’t find GIRLS attractive. I do have some celebrity crushes, but just not actual guys.</p>

<p>celebrities are “actual guys”
sorry, not to be rude at all but the whole twilight fad thing…it’s just a bit of a turn off</p>

<p>^^^</p>

<p>One of the few times I’ve been glad I DL’d a dvdrip instead of a high-def copy- that movie was supremely awful.</p>

<p>Hey Twilight Girl</p>

<p>I responded to your other posts way back last month, if you remember. haha</p>

<p>Anyways, there are TONS of people at your school. Don’t be afraid to come up to ppl/guys and say hi and start flirting with them. College is about meeting new people. And don’t worry if you don’t find a BF, college isn’t necessarily about finding someone. Its a chance to experience new things whether its socially or academically.</p>

<p>BrandoIsCool-
Haha, yeah I actually do remember your replies! It was a while ago. </p>

<p>Ya, it’s not like I’m looking for a BF right when I go to college. I’m going to be too BUSY to be looking around for guys anyway. haha
Of course, I’m going to focused on academics first and then we’ll see how things go.
I’m just ya know wondering if I’ll find a BF in college. Have you ever thought you might never find that right girl/guy? Well, that’s why I was a lil worried I guess.</p>