<p>Just be Aggressive and Talk with your friends about their boyfriends. And Try to talk with some good guy…</p>
<p>twilight_girl09, </p>
<p>What are you doing tomorrow night? Pick you up at 7?</p>
<p>Try dating girls.</p>
<p>hello motto:
haha I’m not going out with you. I know you’re just kidding…</p>
<p>clockwork:
eww I’m not going to date girls! I’m straight all the way!</p>
<p>lol you sound like me</p>
<p>I’ve never had a bf either (sophomore though) but I do seem to attract the guys I don’t like. I have had a few crushes and its partially my fault for not being “assertive” enough to ask them out. In all honesty guys are the least of my worries now lol. When it comes down to it I don’t think it has to do with personality or looks for anyone, when you find someone who will “click” you’ll forget all about that. </p>
<p>You should let things flow until you find a guy you really like and then kidnap him and keep him as your love slave (or ask him out)</p>
<p>OP- Remember that you don’t really “find a boyfriend”. It’s not like shopping for a purse where you list all the qualities you like, and pick one off a shelf. </p>
<p>You won’t start having dates until you accept boys as people, young people still developing into young adults, full of imperfections and great qualities (like you). Some boys will have great senses of humor, some kindness, some hotness, etc. Do not set yourself up for loneliness by having such a an unrealistic perfect male in mind that he is never attainable (or doesn’t exist outside of literature.)</p>
<p>The fact that you never found one boy attractive in HS could mean they were just immature due to youthfulness, or that you have unrealistic expectations. I’d suggest going into college with an open attitude of getting to know boys as humans, & not objectifying them into an ideal mate candidate. </p>
<p>If you learn to have fun and provide friendship, companionship, loyalty, and good company to boys, you’ll have plenty of potential dates. (A little focussed flirting, or an outright invitation, will help move the friend into the date category.) Don’t expect every friend to turn into a date, or every date to turn into love.</p>
<p>Also, take a realistic assessment of yourself. Are you pursuing guys at a similar level of attractiveness, intellect, or social skill? Unreasonable expectations can quickly omit the majority of your possibilities.</p>
<p>Good luck at college, enjoy this great opportunity to be surrounded by so many young people (sans parents)!</p>
<p>If it makes you feel better, I was pretty much in your situation and ending up dating someone with the first month. It’s not all its cracked up to be though, lol, so don’t develop any bad behaviors like hanging out with the person you’re seeing all the time and neglecting your own circle of friends. Basically, don’t be overeager before or during a relationship, just let things happen. (I probably should emphasize that last point if you’re a twilight fan ;))</p>
<p>I am also 18 and never had a bf ive had crushes but just that. I say dont worry about it when u least expect it it will happen. And when it does u migth realize that u dont want a bf.( it happened to me)</p>
<p>In the mean time just have fun and try to be more out there… go up to guys and talk to them… Be friends with them u never know when a friendship can turn to something else.</p>
<p>I definitely agree that college guys are much more mature than high school guys. But beware that most college guys are still immature, so don’t expect them to have everything together, either.</p>
<p>I went into college having experienced two serious-ish relationships. In high school, I was always just open minded about the guys who would ask me out. My longest relationship resulted from giving the guy a chance, and whereas at first I wasn’t really attracted to him, it ended up that I really was. The same thing happened my freshman year of college, I was asked out, went on several dates with the guy, and just really started to like him.</p>
<p>Boys are distracting if you let them be, but with the right touch of balance you can make turn it into a fulfilling part of your social life (just don’t let it get in the way of your social life). You also discover a lot of things about yourself when you’re in a relationship with somebody else.</p>
<p>Don’t step into college with the attitude that you’re on a “man hunt”, just have fun meeting interesting people. Go on some fun dates, don’t worry about forcing yourself into a relationship. If something happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, then who cares? You’ll be too busy having fun.</p>
<p>sorta in the same situation. The guys I like I don’t really go after (its just my personality… =<em>= sigh. I’m a tough girl and I don’t like showing my emotions!) and the guys who like me… are… ******s. (2 of them already had girlfriends, one asked me out or something and then bailed)
on top of that I don’t like parties or drinking… or people in general. ROFL. That might explain alot of things =</em>= I hang out with few of my closest friends rather than meeting new people :/</p>
<p>Seriously, don’t worry about it. High school guys are probably not where you should be looking, so that’s probably the reason why you’ve never had a crush. Judging by your name you probably want a mature, smart, good looking guy (I hate Twilight but I’ve read it, and I kind of know your type if you like Edward), and those guys are NOT in highschool. In college, there will probably be lots of guys like that. =)</p>
<p>Isn’t edward a 100-year old virgin pedophile vampire though</p>
<p>^ hhahahaha </p>
<p>but on a more serious note, i’m pretty much the same way. I’m 18, had one boyfriend for a bit and nothing else. Can’t wait for college boys though!
I’ve talked to friends who just finished up their college freshman years and they said that it’s a lot easier to meet guys in college and before you know it they’ll be all over you. (she goes to a rather large school)</p>
<p>Same situation, here… You’re definitely not alone in this.</p>
<p>I’m glad I’m finally going to college. When I was in middle school I always had crushes on guys in high school. When I was in high school I had crushed on guys in college. (Let’s hope the trend doesn’t continue…) I’ve never had a celebrity crush on someone my age, like a Jonas Brother. They’ve all been around 10-15 years older than me. Haven’t had a crush on a guy in my high school class, either. To put it in simple terms, they’re all typical prepsters; I’m a bit more alternative. </p>
<p>Unlike you, I have gone on dates. I’ve tried to keep my mind open, but I usually end up attracting incredibly immature guys. Two failed a grade. One was sexist. Needless to say, I’ve never gone on a second date. Really, going on dates with these guys makes me appreciate college so much more.</p>
<p>Anyways, don’t be nervous. If you get along with a guy talking to them is natural. And I wish good luck to you, and anyone else in our situation :)</p>
<p>I’m sorry but I have just realized the absurdity of this post, isn’t college about furthering your education? Not finding love. If it happens, it happens. Don’t worry about finding a boyfriend, doing that will ward off any possible men in your path.</p>
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<p>LOL. I want to hear you describe more people.</p>