<p>This was in response to me discrediting your ridiculous analogy of likening a friendless person to a homeless person. Have you changed your personal convictions so quickly? </p>
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It is a sound inference based on your own words and their implications:
If you were to change the context to terminally ill cancer patients rather than shy people, the statement wouldn’t be ridiculous at all. </p>
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If they need help and would like to change their lives, then they will seek the help necessary to do so from qualified professionals. If you want to post your opinion and encourage people in their threads about the benefit of threads, that is fine, however, strongly stating your opinion to the point where you are ramming it down throats is the where it becomes problematic. Whether you like it or not, people aren’t going to change their lives after reading a forum post/</p>
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The problem is people like you. If you simply answer the original poster’s question and not project your values and beliefs of friendship on other people, then there wouldn’t be an argument at all. </p>
<p>For example: My thread was hijacked by self-righteous users like you who refused to help with my initial problem and took it upon themselves to preach to me about the value of friendships, so it goes both ways I’m afraid.</p>
<p>Ok, an observation. (Ok, quite a few observations.)</p>
<p>I have been on this site for a long time. People on here have a terrible time figuring out when they are being trolled and when they are not. It used to be funny, now it’s just sad. </p>
<p>Next, people have way too much interest in other people’s lives. Seriously, it’s not your place to argue with how someone conducts their lives. Give your personal opinion and move on. You are more than welcome to defend your position, but don’t attack the other person. It’s just dumb and no one is going to win.</p>
<p>Another: There is a site full of nerds. It’s simple. I’m one and I’m fine with admitting that. But seriously people? It’s not a scientific forum. If you really want to google statistics to back up your claims, that’s fine. But really, you should just get off the internet at that point and go enjoy life. 95% of people are not going to click on that link because quite frankly, they don’t care. </p>
<p>Finally, don’t make threads to call out other people (or groups of people). If you’re a regular on here, you’re more than aware of everything that’s going on, and if you’re not a regular then you probably don’t understand in the least what’s going on. It’s a no-win situation. Either you’re rehashing an issue that has already been beaten to death or you’re commenting on an issue that you don’t understand. Either way, it’s pointless. </p>
<p>see, I think you have some misconceptions about the relative sufferings of various groups of people. Shy people are more likely to commit suicide than cancer patients. Cancer patients are happier than shy people on average.</p>
<p>Cancer patients often retain the ability to enjoy sun sets. Shy depressed people do not.</p>
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<p>How do you see that I’m insinuating here that they are deep down unhappy??</p>
<p>That’s exactly what I am not saying - that they do not believe there is a better alternative, i.e they believe not having friends is best for them, and therefore they are not sad over not having friends.</p>
<p>If you watched Dawson’s Creek, you would know that friends are invaluable and one of the most important assets you can ever have. Almost as important as memories.</p>
<p>I have watched lectures on depression where studies were presented that showed people diagnosed with depression suffered more than cancer patients. They were lectures by stanford professor Robert Sapolsky. That is why I said that.</p>
<p>^^ Yeabut not having friends doesn’t mean you’re depressed. A professor would say there is a flaw with your inductive reasoning.</p>
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<p>I know that other people aren’t like me. I’m struggling to think of anyone I’ve ever encountered who actually has a similar personality to me. Eharmony tried valiantly to match people to my personality but failed. </p>
<p>Anyways, coincidentally I did end up with a stray cat last semester who I adopted. Don’t think talking to him does much for social anxiety haha. Crazy cat lady in the making.</p>
<p>Lol I know but I said previously shy people have higher rates of depression than cancer patients, and if depression is worse than cancer, then by extension shyness is worse than it too (because more shy people are depressed).</p>
<p>Of course not all shy people are depressed. Some are very very happy, have lots of friends, or a few, etc. The reason why shy people would be depressed would be because it had inhibited them from making friends.</p>
<p>Btw, that is so awesome you found a stray cat :).</p>
<p>So most shy people would probably say that. </p>
<p>As you know, what people would rather have is often not the best for their mental health (i.e shy people avoiding people willingly and being more depressed because of that).</p>
<p>My guess is if you did get cancer, and if you weren’t shy, and if you adapted to having it (humans adapt to these things surprisingly well) your mental health might end up being better than it is now (even if you still wouldn’t chose cancer over shyness).</p>
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