<p>Yes. I'm so worried :( My brother's doing okay, only a sophomore. His SAT scores will be far higher than mine (even by the adjusted scale) so he'll have more shots at SAT numbers driven schools.</p>
<p>The only school I'm worried about him not getting in and being upset is Colgate.</p>
<p>Otherwise, I do imagine our college lists will be different in general with the exception of one school- Hobart (my safety, his probable match). That, I don't care about :)</p>
<p>My oldest brother goes to the same school I do. We both had similar grades and SATs. My second oldest brother had similar SAts, but much lower grades. He ended up getting rejected from Brown, waitlisted at other similar caliber schools, and was very disappointed to have to attend one of his safeties. He's still kind of bitter, and doesn't like even picking me and my brother up from school.</p>
<p>my twin sister and i are lucky in that we won't encounter this problem. she and i each applied to about 7 different schools. she's already heard from two of them, so it makes me nervous (and a little jealous), but i'm really happy for her.</p>
<p>i think the important thing here is that the schools that are right for one kid in a family might not be right for another kid in the same family.</p>
<p>we definitely have different stats, but i think thats reflected in some of the schools we're applying to.</p>
<p>neither one of us is applying to any of the 4 schools my older brother (now a sophomore at BU) applied to.</p>
<p>With siblings, there can always be "something",
beyond the scenarios posted so far.</p>
<p>In our case, 2 kids 2 years apart, non-competitive, get along great.
Both end up having the same 1st choice (Yale),
both applied EA, both got in early.
so what does everyone in the community say about D (the younger one)?
"Her brother goes there so ..."
Completely ignoring her top records but only pointing to the "sibling factor"!</p>
<p>It doesn't bother her, fortunately.
(says her HS friends know how strong her record is...)
People will always say what they want to say, can't do anything about it.</p>
<p>D's friend applied to Cornell last year. Her older brother was a freshman. She had the stats to get in, but unfortunately didn't. She was devistated and thought her life was "over". Is now home on break from U Mish, where she is having the time of her life. Loves her classes, her roomate and the "rah, rah" mentality for the football team. She also has a shot as a walk on to the softball team (NCAA 2004 champs). Says now that she knows what she would have missed by going to Cornell, she is so glad she was rejected.
It usually works out for the best!</p>
<p>Of all the problems, this is not one I worry about! I've got two kids -- one is Musical Theater and Dance; the other is Engineering. One wanted to go as far from home as possible; the other likes the concept of being close. One ended out at a small, private college with 2300 students; the other will probably end out at Univ of Mich with their 23,000+ students. He's proud of her dancing and she is proud of his smarts. And that's about the only thing they have ever agreed on!</p>
<p>I realize this may be a stupid question, but after reading this thread, this popped into my mind--
Would a school ever hold it against a younger sibling (applying) if their older sibiling had been admitted to that same school and turned them down? Just curious, esp. if siblings are interested in similar academic areas.</p>
<p>Surely not! How would they even remember that the older student applied? I'm sure they don't match current applications with past applications to check this!</p>
<p>You're right -- I realized that after I had posted!</p>
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<p>Actually, that did happen to us when applying to secondary school. But, that's a smaller world than the world of college apps, and it was very obvious that they (the other school) knew she wouldn't go to their school if she was accepted at the school her brother was attending (after he had turned them down). So, she was "waitlisted" there but accepted at the (far superior) school her brother was already at, so no one's feelings were hurt. It was sort of a secondary school version of Tufts syndrome -- why are you applying to us when you obviously want to go to the other school. And she all she could say in her interview was, "your school is closer?"</p>
<p>Were watching this scenario play out in a family were friends with. The older son applied to the college both his parents went to even though he didnt want to go to there; he was accepted but went somewhere else. Four years later, his younger sister applied Early Decision to this school and was deferred and is heartbroken. She may still get in, but if she doesnt, Im definitely curious about how the family will deal with it.</p>
<p>I have wondered about this. Anxiousmom, when I called admissions at two schools to verify that all of the documents were received, they asked for my son's middle name. They explained that they had another applicant a few ago with the same first and last name listed(this person is not a related to us) at 2 schools that my S applied to, and I made it known that this person is not related to us. I hope that this will not have any impact on my son's admission.</p>
<p>I also wonder if my younger child applies to some of the same schools, whether he gets as fair of a chance as the older one, if the older son did not attend.</p>
<p>Smaller colleges would know if a sibling applied especially if it was the prior year, someone at Trinity asked my D if her brother applied the year before as they remembered his name when reviewing her scholarship amount. Also some colleges keep apps on file for a few years. I know CMC does that and have heard that others do.</p>
<p>So guess it is a possibility, at least in the smaller schools. Who knows - with computers they could just scan through all considered applicants. I recall reading recently that top-level colleges are extremely conscious of their matriculation rates. Certainly this could carry over to their relationships with secondary schools, and maybe even to individuals(?)</p>
<p>I havent applied to college, since I am only a junior, but I'm really worried that I'll get accepted to colleges where my brother will be rejected for sure. I love my brother too much and would hate to see him feel bad. The thing is, we're only in HS and already teachers are comparing him to me etc. I do pretty well at school, and at my ECs. On the other hand my brother struggles with his academics and ECs. For example this bimester I got a 97 average, and my brother got a 77, I'm really worried that stuff like this will seriously affect him.</p>
<p>megaman; you are obviously a sensitive and very caring older brother. However, you have to follow your dreams and potential, regardless of what your brother's achievements turn out to be. And I bet if you think about it, while you may be stronger in the area of academics, your brother probably has other strong attributes that you don't have. </p>
<p>I have a close friend with three son's: the oldest one is the "brain" in the family, currently in a 7 year med program; the middle one is an athlete who was on three varsity teams in high school, and the youngest one is Mr. social, much more outgoing than the other two. And the great thing is that they are all very close and supportive of each other, and the parents see them as individuals, recognizing and cherishing the strengths of each one. So, if your brother cares about you as much as you do him, and knows that you value him for who he is, he won't want you to do anything but your best.</p>
<p>Megaman,</p>
<p>My 13-year-old sister and I go to different schools, but aside from that I'm in a similar situation from yours. She's a B student with a sprinkling of A's who works hard but isn't "gifted", and it saddens me to know that she compares herself to me. I hope that, as she gets older, she'll learn to appreciate her many strengths--she's a kind, caring girl, very pretty, not to mention a competitive gymnast (something I could never aspire to). Her list of colleges will be very different from mine, and the last thing I want is for her to feel like a failure for being her own person, as opposed to a younger version of me.</p>
<p>thisyearsgirl:
Actually I was talking with my parents last night and it turns out that my brother might even switch schools because apparently the way teachers, classmates etc have come to compare him to me has really affected him. And I mean, he´s a great kid, kind, honest, cares about others, great musician, but it doesnt matter that I see it, it wont matter until he sees it for himself. Does switching schools help at all?</p>
<p>My two children are polar opposites. One had great SAT scores (a 730 on the verbal was his ace in the hole), but was ranked only in the top 25-30% of his class with a GPA of about 3.2. The other has above average but not stellar SAT scores (650 math, 580 CR), but is in the top 5% of her class and has a GPA of 3.87. The reality is that they were looking at VERY different schools for a LOT of reasons. Their interests are also about as different as night and day. They applied to VERY different colleges in VERY different locations. DD has never compared herself to her brother although she did once comment that she wished she had gotten his SAT scores. It would not have changed her school choices, but might have put her in a better position for merit aid. I think the key is to treat each college search like your family has never done one before...not comparing one search to the other. As with Carolyn, my kids looked at such different types of schools. It was not a problem at all.</p>
<p>megaman,</p>
<p>The last time my sister and I went to the same school was when I was in fifth grade and she was in second, before academic competition was really an issue. I definitely think that, as we got older, going to the same school as me would've been detrimental to her self-esteem. It's possible that switching schools would allow your brother to thrive, away from the pressure to follow in your footsteps.</p>