I was admitted ED to NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts with a full tuition scholarship last month. NYU is my dream school and after years of negative reinforcement, I had settled on assuming I would be admitted based on scores and artistic accomplishments but unable to attend for financial reasons, so the scholarship floored me. I attend a very prestigious, artistically (although not academically) competitive arts boarding school, and the response from other students was about 90% positive and 10% underhanded negativity. I’d go so far as to assume it is because many of them expect to get rejected from their tops choices, as art/drama/music/film school admissions are notoriously subjective, but who knows.
I think this thread is very interesting. It’s probably become something the OP didn’t intend. But it stands to reason that people’s reactions are based on how they are personally receiving the news. My son got into a HYPSM school from a public school in the middle of nowhere with a high poverty rate. I expected it to be big, big news. I was practicing my modest stories about all the things he WASN’T good at to make it clear that we weren’t deluded about his “golden boy” status. But the attention never came. The people (friends and teachers) who knew him and had watched him grow up were proud of him like he was their own. But the school didn’t seem to want to acknowledge it. Probably for the reasons listed about. They are proud of all the students accomplishing all that they have been working for and it’s possible that DS’s accomplishment might seem to overshadow the others.
However, the principal is happy to live tweet 6 times from each basketball game. And I think the disparity is wrong.
Also, my friends are happy to post when their child commits to the small LAC, as is usual for kids around here. But DS’s commitment to Yale? I could never. I would worry about how folks might talk about me in my absence. And that seems wrong, too.
@Community2605 I completely understand, especially about the sports. What usually happens where I live is that the parent may not post it but his sister in law will say “shout out to my nephew for getting into Yale” than the parent pretends to be embarrassed.
Very close family member is at a HYPSM and I think that is the price you pay, you cannot brag. It is the same if your kid gets in the 99% on the SAT/ACT, you cannot ask other people how they did, which you can with a 28/1800. In the second you seem like you are getting information and to gauge where your kid falls, in the first, you know where your kid falls and the odds are the other kid did worse so you are bragging.
In D’s case, during the summer at the club she worked at, where most people went to top 50 schools, many top 20, the kids knew where she was going, if adults asked her where she was going she just said she was going to study in country X for the year. Implying that she had not done well enough to get into a 4 year college or at least one she wanted to attend! I heard her do this a couple of times in front of me and you should have seen the looks on the faces of her friend’s parents. Most of the time they did not ask anything else. She seemed to like that. The one time they did, the looked changed again! They were almost relieved for her.