<p>Sorry if this is the wrong section.
I'm 15 and a sophomore in HS, and I have a major problem. I have a 20 year old friend who is a sophomore at Harvard, and he has SUCH high expectations of me. This is only part of the problem. He wants to help me get into a good school such as Tulane, but I'm just not motivated enough to get such high ACT / AP / SAT scores as well as hope to get scholarships just to afford it, when I could go to a school that's 30k cheaper and 30mins away from home. No, it's not as good, but I'd be content there. I have no idea how to tell him. The reality is that I just don't have the inspiration to do all that. He's the kind of guy that went to an elite junior/senior high school then harvard, and will go to a great business school. I'm not that kind of person. I understand that in the eyes of many here, I'm a "quitter" or whatever, but I couldn't care less about that. I just don't know how to tell him all of this. Any help?</p>
<p>Tell him what you just posted here.</p>
<p>If he/she’s forcing you to do something you don’t want then he/she is not your friend. Do what you want; be yourself; do not be something you’re not.</p>
<p>That’s all I gotta say…</p>
<p>How did you meet this friend? I am just curious because most sophomores in high school don’t have really close friends who are five years older than them.</p>
<p>He is my brother’s best childhood friend. My brother is the same age as he is.</p>
<p>so you are not inspired to go to that kind of school?
i think it’s great that you have someone who will push you to do your best… when i was in high school, i wished i had all the advice and tips and stuff… of course, i figured them out after making mistakes…
it’s good to aim for the top… why settle for content?
anyways a lot of people think they can’t reach something and that’s what holds them back… for example, when i was taking the SAT I (a practice test), I scored so low, yes very low… but after a few practices and inspiration, i got over 2000…
you don’t need to be an overachiever and go to the school your friend wants you to go to… college is your choice… BUT if you “will just be content” , then you are holding yourself back
believe in yourself and just try… there are a lot of people who come from crappy schools and try hard to get into a good college to be happy and live the college life…</p>
<p>i suggest you just straight out tell him that you are not him, but tell him that you appreciate his help and that you hope he will continue to look over you in your quest to college…
then you tell yourself that you are not a quitter and aim to be happy… FIND YOUR DREAM SCHOOL… and do everything possible to get into it… and if you can’t find that dream school, find a school that appeals to you and will help you get a job in the future… </p>
<p>and if you don’t want to use my advice, like what everyone else posted, just tell him…
BUT i really think you should aim high… it’ll help you grow as a person</p>
<p>I think your friend is very excited about his future and because he cares about you, he’d like you to be too. I’d suggest doing some thinking about why you don’t want to put in the effort to go to those kinds of schools… perhaps there’s been nothing exciting about learning at your high school. A lot of kids are so bored by their teachers and h.s. subjects that they - understandably - cannot imagine being excited about learning more.</p>
<p>Do you have any idea of what you’d like to do with your life? If not, that’s what college is for. But how much exposure to new ideas, new people, and new prospects are you going to be exposed to in a college that’s 30 minutes away from where you spent your high school years?</p>
<p>I’d recommend trying to find something you care about… doesn’t have to be a typical “subject” (photography? animals? politics?) and imagine what kind of career you could have in that arena. Then look for schools that can get you there.</p>
<p>Good Luck!</p>
<p>I have a 25 year old friend. 10 years older than me. And he’s struggling to get a job even after all the education he’s got. He’s going to open a company soon (he finally got the cash) but he’s still struggling. If you think more clearly, it’s actually not enough to just get it through college.</p>
<p>mom22girls: I know that I want to major in computer science; this college offers that. To clarify, I’m homeschooled, so I don’t think the whole bored thing is a factor. Yes, school is still “boring” (I find biology to be useless, for example), but I realise it’s necessary.</p>
<p>MrPropaganda: Your friend’s case is not unheard of. I know plenty of people with degrees that are struggling to find jobs. Even if your friend went to an Ivy League school, it’d still be hard for him to find a job; it would be for anyone. This is my opinion, anyway.</p>
<p>My brother and his wife are going to my target school and are doing just fine. They are both majoring in computer science and from what I have seen, have learnt a lot.</p>