<p>pathways: D did not seek advice from her HS coaches about college recruiting, and nor did they offer her any assistance. We were aware that other coaches in D’s league were networking and contacting college coaches on behalf of their better athletes. Frankly, this was just fine with us since her coaches’ college horizons were pretty limited (local state schools). Furthermore, we were not completely certain they wouldn’t sabotage her in some way if they made telephone contacts. They had had a tendency to be a little critical of her in their quotes for the newspapers. Also, the track coach admitted to having discarded college recruiting letters for her which came addressed to his attention because he “didn’t think she’d interested.” Oh, and I hear you about the awards too!</p>
<p>Succeeding in spite of this stuff is really sweet for D, and we are so pleased that she was able to earn a spot at a superb school. It really has made her stronger. </p>
<p>As a parent, I wish I could say I feel stronger as a result. Rather, experiencing all the snarkiness has made me battle weary and a little disillusioned about people.</p>