<p>For most of my high school career, I have been under the impression that my mother would make a genuine effort to assist me, financially, with college. She has continually reassured me of my financial security (with her earning 160,000 dollars per year) regarding this issue and has asserted that she would be more than ready to pay for at least half, if not more, of my college tuition. However, our relationship has become progressively terse and she more critical of me as a person. This week she has blamed me for her several unhappy marriages and blames me still for eliciting within her a feeling of confinement and repression. She has blatantly stated within recent months that she considers me a loser and that I will invariably move back into the house after receiving a college education. I am sure that from an objective point-of-view, I am far from a complete failure. I have a 3.98 GPA, have consistently taken AP and Honors classes, am a member of NHS, am Editor-in-Chief of the school newspaper, am President of my high schools Amnesty International student group, Vice President of Model UN, Founder and President of Book Club, Secretary of Key Club, play Varsity Lacrosse, and have continuously made trips back to China in order to teach English to disadvantaged families and promote awareness regarding the social stratification that exists there. </p>
<p>I think you can understand how unprepared I was for my mothers allegations, especially since I there is no conflict of ideology, no conflict regarding priority, no conflict with crime/drug use. Only a conflict of perspective. She dislikes my personality, has told me so, and bemoans the fact that I think too much in theory and too little in solvency. Whenever I move to talk about literature or attempt to engage her in a conversation about politics and reform, things that are important to me, she dismisses it as talking stupid. Why? I have no idea. I have since ceased my efforts to have even a marginally profound discussion with her.</p>
<p>Of course, she has found more petty things to cling onto and squabble over, such as my lack of success on my SAT II Biology test and my struggles with AP Chemistry. Anything she can find a foothold on, really. She has now declared that since I cannot comprehend or, for that matter, appreciate the strife she went through to come to this country, I do not deserve her help. She has refused to assist me with my tuition. My stepfather does not see it as his responsibility and, overall, would much rather stay on my mothers good side. I do have a job working part-time at a restaurant on the weekends, but I only earn enough to pay for insurance and gas. If I had known I would be in this sort of situation right now, I would have gotten another job in order to work longer hours and support myself through college. But I have been left, quite abruptly, on my own. To be honest with you, I dont know what to do with myself right now. Should I not attend college immediately after graduation in order to work for tuition? I cannot file for abandonment, as my parents A.) are in contact with me and B.) are attending to my essential needs. </p>
<p>Any advice on how, exactly, to manage myself would be very much appreciated. </p>
<p>P.S. I have not had contact with my biological father since the age of two and, seeing as he is a navy officer in the Chinese Army, I doubt he would have any leverage in this sort of situation.</p>