<p>I didn't realize until this school year how many students in my school have parental pressure to succeed.
"You will take all four years of Latin, and not only will you like it but you will get an A," (for a student who I don't believe could pull an A in basic English. It took her awhile to remember what a noun was in that class.)
"You're grounded until you get your B to an A," was another I heard. (Not too bad, but I think that was for one of the challenging classes I took, so for that class it was a bit strict.)
"My parents are making me take band/private lessons on French Horn. I hate it. I've been taking it since fourth grade," (from an already over achiever)</p>
<p>I have tons from over achievers to barely passing students. </p>
<p>My parents never really care. I kind of get that "Oh you could do better" look when I have a "C" in a class, and then a "great job" look when I pull it up. My mom likes to talk about my grades a lot, but she's not much of a parent that puts pressure on. I've always been a hardworker when it comes to school.</p>
<p>Are your parents the kind that lay on the pressure or do you have a laid back parents that don't really care, and how many kids do you see pressured by their parents?</p>
<p>When I was younger they would be angry if I got a B or something, but now I'm old enough that I have to take care of that stuff myself. There is no way they would ever ground me until I raised a grade... </p>
<p>I don't know what will happen next year. I don't live with my dad and he doesn't understand things like AP scores or SAT scores, but he has always cared enough about my grades to ask so maybe he'll ask about my college grades too. I don't think I'll tell them all of my official grades next year- maybe general ideas and what classes are harder than others. Definitely not constant updates or anything. They know the only person that will be hurt if I do badly is myself- I'm paying my own tuition.</p>
<p>My parents couldn't care less. I am pretty self-motivated, but also very lazy when it comes to papers/projects/etc. and I'll wait until the last minute to do them. </p>
<p>To be honest, it kind of upsets me. I wish I had been pushed to join extracurriculars and study more or get better grades. I know it must suck to have your parents control your life, but I feel kind of lost with no guidance whatsoever.</p>
<p>my mom attempts to push me at the wrong stuff lol.
she cares more about effort grades, conduct grades, and individual report card then then end result (all As everyyear) which is the only thing that goes on the transcript</p>
<p>My dad got mad when I said I didn't need a tutor for the SAT and that I could study on my own. Of course when I told him I got an 800 on SAT II math 2 a few days later he backed off. Not that the two have anything in common, but at least it showed I was capable of some level of independent motivation.</p>
<p>My parents put pressure in more subtle ways. My mom will tell me how she worked so hard in school so as to be able to earn enough money to emigrate out, and that one time when she got a C, she contemplated not returning home for a few days. My dad will talk about how he was so poor that he couldn't afford a scientific calculator for the first year of an engineering course in college, and that his sister wouldn't lend him money to buy one when she arrived in America. Then he'll talk about how he eventually had to drop out because his dad had retired and they had no more money. They'll both talk about how they had to work twice as hard for half of what we (my siblings and I) get.</p>
<p>So now I have to earn nothing but perfection lest their tribulations become futile.</p>
<p>I live with my mom and she doesn't care what grades I get. (I am a straight A student.) She might ask why I am getting Bs if I got them but that is the extent of the pressure being put on me.</p>
<p>I doubt my dad still remembers the name of the school I go to.</p>
<p>yeah my parents are two of the worst. I know its because they care, and they want me to succeed, but sometimes I wish they didn't have surreal expectations. I mean if I ever got a B, my parents would kill me. And my dad wants me to get a 2400 on the SAT on my very first try. It's impossible to explain to him that I probably won't get a 2400 on any of my attempts. In fact I just got my World History AP score two days ago. I got a 4, which I was immensely proud of. Especially because I was afraid I was going to get 2. Yet he still looked at me with disappointment and asked why I didn't get a 5..</p>
<p>oh well, hopefully this will teach me to be better with my kids.</p>
<p>Sometimes... Like, on days my dad knows I took a test, he'll ask me how it went and I'll say "I thought it was pretty easy" which is the case with almost every test except for math and science. He'll then look at me and say, "then you better get a 100."</p>
<p>In my house, there's a lot of pressure (for me, not so much my brother) to do really well partly because my dad went to college at 16 and my mom went to Columbia University. It's hard to tell my dad that I'm struggling even a little bit with high school courses (albeit, honors, APs and/or SUPAs), when he was in college at a younger age than I am now.</p>
<p>My parents expect me to get A's in every class. If I don't, it better be because I tried my hardest yet it would have been impossible (like a crazy English teacher who only gave 1 A out and it was to his favorite student; I got an A- when he even told me I had done A level work). To get a B or lower in a class I didn't try in wouldn't be acceptable. </p>
<p>Fortunately I have the same goals for myself, so I consider this a good thing. Also, I've always met this goal (at least all through high school). If I didn't, I really don't think there would be any punishment except me feeling guilty for letting myself down.</p>
<p>My parents are pretty laid back, they don't tell me to do my homework or routinely monitor me or what not. I am self motivated and do what work I need to when I need to.</p>
<p>My mom doesn't care about my grades when I earn Straight A's. I'd get in trouble if I received a B. The only exception was Freshman Year, I was soooo close to an A in Algebra I Honors (an A was a 89.5 or higher, I ended up with an 89.44) I was so disapointed in myself she didn't ground me.. However; I don't get congratulated for my good grades either.. But, I hold myself more accountible than she does. I would hate myself if I ended up with B's, and then getting in trouble would be icing on my pity cake.</p>
<p>My brother on the other hand has his report card on the Refrigerator and he has 2 A's 2 B's and 2 C's... So. It's a double standard that I don't hate..</p>
<p>My parents encourage me to do the best I can and they are very involved in everything academic and college related. They both went to great schools and use more subtle motivators like if you want to get a great well -paying job, then this will be a better choice, but ITS WHat YOU want....I got a 4 on one of my ap tests and my mom was like why didn't you get a 5? In general though they are very supportive and since I did so well its really not too much pressure from them at this point, but more from myself.</p>
<p>Ya. Actually, looking at this past school year (when I wrote this post originally I wans't thinking too much of this past one, just general) ever since my school adopted Power School to check grades she's on there three times a week. I hate that though. I don't sually mind her knowing my grades but when she has to ask me about it, it makes me want to go insane. I know what I'm doing, relax.</p>
<p>Or, what I think bugs me most is the "oh you could have done better," look. I'm shocked my mom didn't drop out of high school some days, so for her to give me that look bugs me when she could have done better. I know it's out of love, but still, nonetheless, hypocritical.</p>
<p>My parents never push me. They never care to know if I have a project. They never been to any of my parent-teacher conferences. I am self-motivated and I wish my parents pushed me but I know the reasons why they cannot.</p>
<p>Oo another point. Is my parents don't ever make sure I do my Projects or Homework or Study. They just expect me to.. They haven't checked up on me && my homework since the 3rd grade. My mom did help me w/ one project this year tho.</p>
<p>It was a Research Paper Project that had to relate to me. && I found all the info but I have awful handwriting so I asked her to copy everything onto the correct posters for me. But I still wrote the poem, made the recipie, did the Timeline, and of course, did all the Research. So..</p>
<p>My parents used to be really laid-back and didn't really care what I did with my time. After this past school year ended though, they (mainly my mom) got unusually nosy and pushy. I think this whole college thing is more overwhelming for her than it is for me.</p>
<p>my school has parent connect, which posts every grade a student receives in every class. the only time my parents say anything is when they get an email saying i was "missing" an assignment, usually because i was absent. the only time my parents "pressure" me is when it's time for important tests.. then they can go on for hours and hours about how important it is that i go to a good college</p>