<p>Does anyone have any ambivalent feelings toward the college that son or daughter just enrolled in on 5-1?</p>
<p>The source of ambivalence cd be many things, parents might not like something about the college (too far, student body or personality not what you'd like), but the biggest source that I speaking about is the PRICE. </p>
<p>For all those people on CC whose kid did not get a free ride, but who is now looking at maybe a $100,000 dollars, at least, in the next four years, and maybe you do not even have a $100,000 in the bank right,</p>
<p>You mean other than the fact that my child turned down a full ride at our flagship state university’s Honors program to go pay OOS tuition at another state’s flagship state university?</p>
<p>Well, it will probably work out in the end but my child may transfer. I think the college he is going to is great…he just doesn’t want to go there.</p>
<p>I felt disappointed for my DD when my she ended up at a middle ranked UC, the one UC to which she applied as a financial safety- she did not listen to mom’s advice about apps, she applied to too many reaches and the matches were expensive and she was not amazing enough to get their big scholarships, so it was not practical (USC, etc)</p>
<p>It was a classic CC story of how it could have been done better. The good news is that she survived the factory, graduated w/a double major, met one mentor who connected her well for grad schools apps, etc. The sad news is that it was never a good fit, she did not like the area, she did not like her initial dept, she did not make any really amazing great close lifelong friends (she is back in touch with some good friends from her small HS), with no housing after first year it does turn into a commuter school and that was less than exciting. All in all, she made it through, but it was not a great fit and she should have listened to her mother and I should ahve insisted on adding other schools. In fairnesss to her, I did not know then what I know now and CC was much less active in those days, that was the era of the PR board which was rather snarky.</p>
<p>So, I learned a great deal and made sure my other D’s had excellent choices. I think it is a sad feeling when you realise you cannot afford the dream school and have to choose the financial safety- that said, I am glad we did not take massive laons to pay for the expensive schools!</p>
<p>None. It was exactly the right school for what he wanted even though it was on the other coast and we knew he would stay there. Post-graduation events are proving that it was the right choice.</p>
<p>A mixture of excitement for her and dread for us! The cost of the school is better than it was before but still a little tough to pay comfortably. We are making lifestyle changes, like cutting out the latte’s, conserving gas, buying food for the month (one trip to the store) etc…</p>
<p>When S1 left for our big state u. three years ago, I had some ambivalent feelings. He had a large outside scholarship that could have been used at many different schools all over the country and yet he chose to go to the state u. 2.5 hours down the road with lots of other kids from his sch. I felt he was missing an oportunity for adventure/challenge in a different part of the country.
He insisted on staying instate so I zipped my lips. He has had a great three years,loves his sch. which is also DH’s alma mater so they’ll always have that in common. I’m glad I zipped my lips instead of pushing him to adventure farther afield. His job upon graduation next May will offer plenty of travel far from home and I’ll be wishing he were closer by again.</p>
<p>Couldn’t be happier about S2’s chosen sch. for next yr. Not the star student, didn’t have lots of choices, got into a state u. (my school) that was a slight reach for him even though it’s a safety for most. We weren’t sure he would get in so there was much rejoicing when the fat envelope came. Funny how a school can be a safety- last resort sch. for some but a big happy achievement for others</p>
<p>I’m with TSDAD although our S is only now graduating so we don’t know about post-graduation benefits. However, we have found out that some people we already know are alums of the school, which makes the already-established connections that much better.</p>
<p>And while I wouldn’t mind having some more money in our retirement funds, I suspect that the benefits of the education he received will at least compensate for the additional cost over going to a UC.</p>
<p>I was and am ambivalnet about my D’s choice … mostly because she was ambivalent herself until the last moment. But I still wonder why I suggested to her applying to those far-away schools (or even introduced them to her) in the first place …</p>
<p>Well, yes, I do. A lot of her decision was based on a competitive program that she really wanted and is very excited to be part of. I of course know she may change her mind about that program and hope she does not rue the choice of school. I also wish I could have allowed her to apply to any school, finances be d–ed, but I knew our limits and put the kibosh on some schools with no merit aid.</p>
<p>No, but I’m getting tired of people expressing surprise and/or dismay when they ask and I tell them which school he chose. There seem to be a lot of people who think that Animal House was a documentary.</p>
<p>Apparently some people expected him to make a different choice. One friend greeted the news with “I hate Dartmouth!” (That was nice.) My father said that he was “disappointed.” (Sweet.)</p>
<p>“Well, yes, I do. A lot of her decision was based on a competitive program that she really wanted and is very excited to be part of. I of course know she may change her mind about that program and hope she does not rue the choice of school”</p>
<p>What exactly are Tier 1 schools? Would they be the top 100 colleges on the US news every year? I chose a state school (still in top 100) with a great full-ride scholarship, turning down some prestigious schools/programs. After going on CC, I now feel like my school suck and that I’ve made the wrong choice…</p>
<p>My Bio teacher told me that when she was decided where to go to college, she told her parents she felt like going to Brown. Her Harvard alum father said that Brown was “the armpit of the Ivy League.” And, because she knew she couldn’t put up with possibly forty years of criticism from her father, she went to Harvard instead. She said she probably would’ve liked Brown better.</p>
<p>garland: thanks for the heads up, not that we haven’t discussed that around here ad nauseum…given that the program she chose involves a passion she has had since she is 10 years old, we are “hoping” it works out the way she plans…we are, however, starting this journey with our eyes wide open to all possibilities…</p>
But I still wonder why I suggested to her applying to those far-away schools (or even introduced them to her) in the first place …</p>