So ASU has always been my second choice if University of Alabama didn’t work out (which it didn’t)
I spent the first half of this year thinking I was going to go to Alabama so now they think I havent spent enough time figuring out a plan B. I however got into Barretts at ASU which I didn’t really expect but was super happy about because from what I read its a great program. We had made a plan to visit in late April. But last week I switched my major from Biology to Statistics and they don’t understand why I am switching majors. According to them since I “don’t know what I want to do” they don’t want to send me to Glendale anymore. They aren’t letting me even visit and are going to force me to do CC for 2 years then try and transfer back again. I don’t know what to do because they are essentially making this decision for me and not even allowing me to visit and figure it out. I currently live in the california bay area and resent the fact that I don’t want to go to a UC (I applied to UCSB, UCSD, and UCR but only got into UCR)
Please help! I don’t want to resent my parents for not letting me choose.
Is this a money issue with your folks since you are OOS?
I’m in a WUE major so it’s going to be WAAAAY less than any UC and I’m also getting the New American Scholarship. my parents have said they will help me so I don’t think its a money thing. It’s more of them not trusting my decisions because I’m making them very soon to when I have to submit an enrollment deposit.
@speechprincess - even with the new American Scholarship, the estimated Barrett out of pocket for out of state is around $18K a year. The WUE will not make much of a difference because that would just reduce your tuition, which would reduce your scholarship. As a parent, I cringe that the meal plans at Barrett and the room costs are significantly higher than what normal ASU students pay (and if you enroll in Barrett, you MUST live in the Barrett dorm and MUST purchase a Barrett meal plan).
Are they just against ASU? Will they let you go to UCR or is it now community college only? Why don’t you want to go to UCR? My daughter was deciding last year between ASU Barrett’s with a full tuition and fees scholarship, UCSB with no scholarship and UCR with the Chancellor’s scholarship. She eventually chose UCR and is very happy there, very solid university and diverse too. Of course, I am positive she would have been happy at any of the other two as well. Just trying to say that it is usually what you make of it that matters.
I know you don’t want to hear it, but they are right. Spend two years at a CC and figure out what you want to do, and where you want to go. But if you are that adamant about swaying them, than show them some of Barrett’s statistics off of their website. Use Barrett as the base of your argument. After all Barrett is in the top 10 best honors colleges in the country, and students from Barrett are often admitted into top grad programs.
I just realized that I never came back and updated on what happened. So I will be attending ASU in the fall. My dad and I did a visit and we decided that it was the best place for me. After talking with them I discovered their hesitation wasn’t based off of money, but because they just didn’t think I was ready to leave the state. I’m not going to lie it was a hard time to live in my house because I know they just wanted the best for me but couldn’t quite figure out the best way to do it.
So to anyone reading this in the future, who is in the same position, JUST RELAX! Everything will work itself out. Everyone I went to for advice told me that for parents, it sometimes takes them longer to accept what you want simply because you’re just their baby and they’ve spent the last 18 years making every decision for you and this is a huge decision that you do have to make on your own. My only advice is make your decision early, unlike I did, so you can avoid all that stress!
@speechprincess Congratulations! I am delighted that it all worked out for you. Now work hard and make your parents even prouder of you.
thank you so much for the update…i say TTT things take time …Work hard, Play later